Parenting With Love and Logic Quotes

“If we never let our kids struggle to get something they want or work through a problem for themselves, then when things get difficult later in life, they won’t suddenly turn tough and get going; instead, they’ll just quit.”
― Foster W. Cline, Parenting with Love and Logic: Teaching Children Responsibility

“Parents who give a lot of warnings raise kids who don’t behave until they’ve had a lot of warnings.”
― Foster W. Cline, Parenting with Love and Logic: Teaching Children Responsibility

“The best response is to say what we have to say, and then walk away.”
― Jim Fay, Parenting with Love and Logic: Teaching Children Responsibility

“It is horribly disappointing to watch kids learn to blame others for their lack of success instead of becoming people who reach goals through effort and determination”
― Foster W. Cline, Parenting with Love and Logic: Teaching Children Responsibility

“If there’s more than a 20 percent chance our child might be able to work it out, we should keep clear of owning the problem and not rob our child of the opportunity to learn and grow from the experience.”
― Foster W. Cline, Parenting with Love and Logic: Teaching Children Responsibility

“If I’ve told you once, I’ve told you a thousand times,” the implication is, “You’re pretty dumb, and your neurons work sluggishly.” Such implied messages are put-downs, the kind of messages that would make us fighting mad if they were said to us by a supervisor or a coworker. We can lace these messages with as much syrup as the human voice is capable of carrying — “Now, honey, you’re not going without your coat today, are you?” — but the implied message still shines through; namely, “You’re not smart enough to know whether or not your own body is hot or cold.” The ultimate implied message says, “I’m bigger than you are. I’m more powerful than you are. I have more authority, and I can make you do things.”
― Foster W. Cline, Parenting with Love and Logic: Teaching Children Responsibility

“If children were meant to run the home, they would have been born larger.”
― Foster W. Cline, Parenting with Love and Logic: Teaching Children Responsibility

“The teenagers who make the wrong choice on alcohol are probably the same children who never learned how to keep their hands out of the cookie jar.”
― Foster W. Cline, Parenting with Love and Logic: Teaching Children Responsibility

“Throughout life, the happiest of people rely on internal controls and self-discipline. The unhappiest of people must rely on external controls to keep their behavior in check. No”
― Foster W. Cline, Parenting with Love and Logic: Teaching Children Responsibility

“The best solution to any problem lies within the skin of the person who rightfully owns the problem.”
― Foster W. Cline, Parenting with Love and Logic: Teaching Children Responsibility

“Although kids are born with great courage to take control of their own lives and make decisions, they have little experience on which to base their decisions, so they often make poor choices. But they can learn from those mistakes, provided parents don’t get too involved.”
― Foster W. Cline, Parenting with Love and Logic: Teaching Children Responsibility

“Effective parenting centers around love: love that is not permissive, love that doesn’t tolerate disrespect, but also love that is powerful enough to allow kids to make mistakes and permit them to live with the consequences of those mistakes.”
― Foster W. Cline, Parenting with Love and Logic: Teaching Children Responsibility

“Train children in the right way,              and when old, they will not stray. (Proverbs 22:6)”
― Foster W. Cline, Parenting with Love and Logic: Teaching Children Responsibility

“To one student, he would say, “You get that work done or you’re not going to lunch,” and the kid’s pencil became an instantaneous cyclone of activity. To another he would say the same thing, and the kid would say, “Who cares?” Some kids respond to threats, and some don’t. They may do as they’re told, but they’re angry with the person who gave the order. Or they may perform the task in a way that is unsatisfactory simply to regain some of the control they had taken from them. In either case, they’re breaking the limit we’re trying to set. In”
― Foster W. Cline, Parenting with Love and Logic: Teaching Children Responsibility

“Child says something loud and unkind to the parents. FIGHTING WORDS: “Don’t you talk to me in that tone of voice!” THINKING WORDS: “You sound upset. I’ll be glad to listen when your voice is as soft as mine is.” Child is dawdling with her homework. FIGHTING WORDS: “You get to work on your studying!” THINKING WORDS: “Feel free to join us for some television when your studying is done.” Two kids are fighting. FIGHTING WORDS: “Be nice to each other. Quit fighting.” THINKING WORDS: “You guys are welcome to come back as soon as you work that out.” Child won’t do his chores. FIGHTING WORDS: “I want that lawn cut now!” THINKING WORDS: ‘‘I’ll take you to your soccer game as soon as the lawn is cut.”
― Foster W. Cline, Parenting with Love and Logic: Teaching Children Responsibility

“Be sure to use the bathroom before we leave.” Each of these messages tells children they are not capable of thinking for themselves, that they cannot take control of their life and make decisions. Interestingly, such messages often come from parents who moan and groan about their kids’ lack of responsibility and ability to think for themselves.”
― Foster W. Cline, Parenting with Love and Logic: Teaching Children Responsibility

“Responsible behavior has a direct correlation to the number of decisions children are expected to make. The more they make, the more responsible they become.”
― Foster W. Cline, Parenting with Love and Logic: Teaching Children Responsibility

“Most of us raise our children based on our gut reactions. But how do we know whether such responses are trustworthy or just the result of bad lasagna? Actually, adult “gut reactions” are the results of childhood responses to family emotions and interactions. Therefore, “gut feel” is more valid if we had a happy childhood and presently have peaceful and rewarding relationships at home and elsewhere. On the other hand, if we react to our childhood by saying, “I sure want to do things differently with my kid than my mom and dad did with me,” then our gut reactions will probably be untrustworthy and faulty.”
― Foster W. Cline, Parenting with Love and Logic: Teaching Children Responsibility

“We must understand that making good choices is like any other activity: It has to be learned.”
― Foster W. Cline, Parenting with Love and Logic: Teaching Children Responsibility

“The building of a person’s self-concept can be compared to building a three-legged table. Such a table will stand only when all three supports are strong. If any one of the legs is weak, the table will wobble and rock. If a leg is missing, goodbye table. Our children’s three-legged table of self-concept is built through the implied messages we give. These messages either build them up and allow them to succeed by themselves or add to childhood discouragement and reduced self-esteem.”
― Foster W. Cline, Parenting with Love and Logic: Teaching Children Responsibility

“Think of how we, as adults, respond to a person who builds on our strengths. If somebody very important to us thinks we’re the greatest thing since remote controls, we will perform like gangbusters for that person. But if that important person thinks we’re the scum of the earth, we will probably never prove him or her wrong.”
― Foster W. Cline, Parenting with Love and Logic: Teaching Children Responsibility

“parents who build on their kids’ strengths find their children growing in responsibility almost daily.”
― Foster W. Cline, Parenting with Love and Logic: Teaching Children Responsibility

“Teens often resent guidelines and rebel at firm limits because they’ve grown to think differently than when they were younger.”
― Foster W. Cline, Parenting with Love and Logic: Teaching Children Responsibility

“and spending so little time with their kids. Rather than holding their children accountable for their actions, they simply let them run free, believing that “quality” time will make up for the lack of “quantity” of time they spend with their children and that responsibility will eventually rub off on the children during the right “quality” moments.”
― Foster W. Cline, Parenting with Love and Logic: Teaching Children Responsibility

“Drill sergeant kids, who did a lot of saluting when they were young, will do a lot of saluting when teenagers, but the salute is different: a raised fist or a crude gesture involving the middle finger.”
― Foster W. Cline, Parenting with Love and Logic: Teaching Children Responsibility

“When we think of the enormous love we pump into our children’s lives and then the sassy, disobedient, unappreciative behavior we receive in return, we can get pretty burned out on the whole process.”
― Foster W. Cline, Parenting with Love and Logic: Teaching Children Responsibility

“LOVE AND LOGIC TIP 8 What They See Is What They Learn I (Jim) spent my childhood on the wrong side of the tracks in a trailer in industrial Denver. When my family scraped enough money together, we bought a little garage to live in while my dad built a house on the property.              Dad worked a morning shift downtown and rode the streetcar to work, and then when he returned at 2:00 p.m. every day, he picked up his hammer and saw and built a house. It took seven years. As I watched him work, I thought, Wow! He gets to do all the fun stuff: mix the concrete, lay the bricks, put on the shingles, hammer nails, saw wood. I watched it all day, every day.              At the end of the day, when my dad knocked off, he invariably said, “Jim, clean up this mess.” So I would roll out the wheelbarrow, pick up a shovel and a rake, and clean up the mess. At the same time, Dad would explain to me that people have to learn to clean up after themselves. They need to finish and put the tools away.              When my dad noticed that I left my own stuff lying around, he complained, “Why don’t you ever pick up your stuff, Jim? There’s your bike on the sidewalk, and your tools are all over the place. When you go to look for a tool, you won’t know where it is.” I, of course, was learning all about cleaning up. I was learning that adults don’t clean up after themselves.              Had my father modeled cleaning up after himself — saying in the process, “I feel good now that the day’s work is finished, but I’ll feel better when I clean up this mess and put all the tools in the right places” — he would have developed a son who liked to clean up his own messes. As it is, my garage is a mess to this very day.”
― Foster W. Cline, Parenting with Love and Logic: Teaching Children Responsibility

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― Foster W. Cline, Parenting with Love and Logic: Teaching Children Responsibility

“Train children in the right way, and when old, they will not stray. Proverbs 22:6”
― Foster W. Cline, Parenting with Love and Logic: Teaching Children Responsibility

“How much better to get wisdom than gold! To get understanding is to be chosen rather than silver. Proverbs 16:16”
― Jim Fay, Parenting with Love and Logic: Teaching Children Responsibility