It's Not About the Horse Quotes

“Whether or not you get what you're looknig for depends entirely on one things and one thing only. It depends on your willingness to do something different.”
― Wyatt Webb, It's Not About the Horse: It's About Overcoming Fear and Self-Doubt

“I was the kid who always thought I was chickenshit, and I had been terrified for most of my life. In treatment, people were suddenly loving me for me. Unconditionally. I had told them the goriest, most horrible stuff about myself … and they hugged me for it. This was what I had been looking for forever— a place to fit in.”
― Wyatt Webb, It's Not About the Horse: It's About Overcoming Fear and Self-Doubt

“The truth is that at the time, I didn’t have a genuine awareness of why I was so pissed off or even specifically who I was pissed off at. I was just pissed off.”
― Wyatt Webb, It's Not About the Horse: It's About Overcoming Fear and Self-Doubt

“This was my way of life for 21 years: Highs so high I was a human F-16, and lows so low I didn’t need a funeral because I’d already buried myself.”
― Wyatt Webb, It's Not About the Horse: It's About Overcoming Fear and Self-Doubt

“In those clubs, I learned that everything my town had taught me about race was absolutely wrong. The memories of that time in my life on Auburn Avenue are great ones, and they’re all mine.”
― Wyatt Webb, It's Not About the Horse: It's About Overcoming Fear and Self-Doubt

“But like most dreams, they end and you’ve got to wake up the next morning.”
― Wyatt Webb, It's Not About the Horse: It's About Overcoming Fear and Self-Doubt

“I tried to be like them, I really did. I became very athletic, but as is the case with many families, it’s the firstborn who’s the father’s child.”
― Wyatt Webb, It's Not About the Horse: It's About Overcoming Fear and Self-Doubt

“My earliest memory of being on this earth is a little strange. I remember being five years old and feeling like one of those aliens that supposedly landed in Roswell, New Mexico. Even at that age, I felt like I was different from everyone around me, and I had serious doubts that I’d ever be able to fit in anywhere. I felt that there was something flawed about me—I didn’t even fit in with my own family. Many times, I’d scan the dinner table as if I were taking things in with one of those slow-motion cameras.”
― Wyatt Webb, It's Not About the Horse: It's About Overcoming Fear and Self-Doubt

“If you’d asked me at age eight to describe God, I would have said that He was 100 feet tall and had long white hair and a gray robe. He was looking down only at me, and His book was always open so He could keep score. As a result of what He saw with me, God was frowning.”
― Wyatt Webb, It's Not About the Horse: It's About Overcoming Fear and Self-Doubt

“I live next to the Baptist church, where I’m told that I’m “everything that is nothing.” I’m told that I’m bad. I’m terrible. I’m a sinner. I’m a real loser. In other words, I’m doomed before I even get to the third grade.”
― Wyatt Webb, It's Not About the Horse: It's About Overcoming Fear and Self-Doubt

“If you walk through your fear that something must be wrong with you, then what you always find on the other side is that there’s nothing wrong with you. And there’s nothing to be afraid of,” he tells her. “What happens then?” Katie asks, sobbing. “When you get to that other side, there’s only one thing waiting—joy.”
― Wyatt Webb, It's Not About the Horse: It's About Overcoming Fear and Self-Doubt

“I guess I always try extra hard to get people to like me,” says the young man. “I figure if I’m the nicest person in the whole room, people will have to be nice to me back.” “Let me suggest to you the fallacy behind that one,” he explains. “You’re not really being nice to anyone. You’re being manipulative. You’re only acting nice in the hopes of preventing people from rejecting you. True kindness comes with no charge. Later on, the universe just pays you back.”
― Wyatt Webb, It's Not About the Horse: It's About Overcoming Fear and Self-Doubt

“He goes on to explain that he’s never had that same issue with Monsoon ever again. “I’ve had that problem with a few people,” Wyatt laughs, “but I’ve been able to reign it in because when I find myself trying to win, it’s time to stop. Because somebody has to lose. This whole culture is set up this way. We’ve got to win, which means we’re going to lose. It means that we cannot even hope to connect with each other.” As he gazes at the crowd of onlookers, it seems like they finally get it.”
― Wyatt Webb, It's Not About the Horse: It's About Overcoming Fear and Self-Doubt

“In that humiliating, spirit-crushing, bone-aching, ah-ha! moment, a lightbulb went off in my head. I thought to myself, I finally get it. Anytime I’m in a relationship with any living thing and I have the need to win, the possibility for connection and closeness is over.”
― Wyatt Webb, It's Not About the Horse: It's About Overcoming Fear and Self-Doubt

“The problem is that we’re afraid, and that’s the reason we fight each other. We keep making it about other countries or religions, and it’s not. Why can’t we sit down and talk about what we’re afraid of? We’re afraid to tell the truth.”
― Wyatt Webb, It's Not About the Horse: It's About Overcoming Fear and Self-Doubt

“Every culture I’ve ever been subjected to appears to be frightened,” he explains. “I’ve been working as a psychotherapist for 20 years, and if I could boil down every problem that ever walked through any office that I’ve occupied—and this includes when I’ve been alone in the office—every human being suffers from two things in varying degrees of intensity, two things that are taught to us. They’re called self-doubt and fear.”
― Wyatt Webb, It's Not About the Horse: It's About Overcoming Fear and Self-Doubt

“I pledge to tell you the truth, to be kind, but sometimes to be blunt. Together, let’s examine the stories you’re making up to see how many of them are based in reality. Personally, prior to the age of 36, almost every story I had was based in a lie. But I’d like you to remember that it doesn’t take nearly as many words to tell the truth as it does to bullshit somebody.”
― Wyatt Webb, It's Not About the Horse: It's About Overcoming Fear and Self-Doubt

“So, what I suggest you do is pay attention to what you’re thinking and pay attention to what you’re feeling. Know that these two things dictate the way you live your life. By focusing your attention internally as opposed to externally, you’ll be able to be present enough to connect with any other living thing, which will also cause you to take responsibility for your life and how you live it. Will I judge you? Of course not! But I will observe.”
― Wyatt Webb, It's Not About the Horse: It's About Overcoming Fear and Self-Doubt

“He stops for a second and then continues. “Keep in mind that you’ve been conditioned to be externally focused in all of your relationships. This is one of the true impediments to our being able to learn anything about ourselves. Let me ask you this: How much time do you spend during the day wondering what others are thinking and feeling, and concocting stories about why they’re behaving as they do? See, as long as I’m focused on you in such a manner, it will be impossible for me to connect with you because I’m not present with myself.”
― Wyatt Webb, It's Not About the Horse: It's About Overcoming Fear and Self-Doubt

“If you’re to achieve the peace, joy, and spiritual fulfillment that you want so badly, it depends upon one thing and one thing only— your willingness to simply do something different.”
― Wyatt Webb, It's Not About the Horse: It's About Overcoming Fear and Self-Doubt