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Hey, easy on the vows and nevers. Life is long and wide.

monogamish - monogamous, with exceptions within mutually negotiated parameters (from writer Dan Savage)

A good improviser doesn't react to a scenario by denying it or complaining about it; instead, she accepts and builds on it.

I soon saw that in drinking to cope with shame and anxiety, I'd done nothing but make more of both.

Sam and I existed in that blissful state called the verge, in a curated intimacy without chores or budgets or family visits. We were too close to fully idealize each other, but not close enough to know the worst.

I was promoted killingly close to the boys' table, where I then languished for years. Sam had a seat at that table, but was too Lanky to really use it.

"I would kill to have the access you do. And you don't even appreciate it."

I wanted to marry John, not merge with him. The dread of being subsumed hit me hard & fast and didn't vanish until after the rehearsal.

"Did you think about putting the brakes on?"

"Well, no. I just hoped I'd turn out to be wrong."

"So were you wrong?"

"The wrongest I've ever been."

I wanted to be loved, not invaded

they overlapped mostly via domestic transactions: lawns moved, dinners cooked.

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I grew up assuming all marriages were long silences punctuated by chores

Maybe my secret was just that marriage doesn't fill every space inside us.