Nadine’s Reviews > Leadership Material: How Personal Experience Shapes Executive Presence > Status Update

Great insightful book. Reading and discussing with a colleague. We’re pretty slow to finish but every chapter so far is very though provoking and we want to delve.

Key point:
The key thing with a default response is that you are deprived of your ability to think. Realizing that this relates to the originating events, rather than your current situation, begins the process of repair.

Need to work on this:

... overdeveloped default behaviors often fall into traps such as
Taking feedback as personal attack
Responding aggressively , blaming, accusing, and being defensive
Losing confidence, having low self- esteem, and self-doubting.

Need to work on this:

... overdeveloped default behaviors often fall into traps such as
Taking feedback as personal attack
Responding aggressively , blaming, accusing, and being defensive
Losing confidence, having low self- esteem, and self-doubting.

Like this bit:
Positive working experiences are essential for achieving results. Leaders may have all the technical and professional skills in the works, but if they rub their peers or staff the wrong way, this results in people moving away from them.

Like this bit:
Positive working experiences are essential for achieving results. Leaders may have all the technical and professional skills in the works, but if they rub their peers or staff the wrong way, this results in people moving away from them.

Like this bit:
Positive working experiences are essential for achieving results. Leaders may have all the technical and professional skills in the works, but if they rub their peers or staff the wrong way, this results in people moving away from them.

Understanding why people behave in certain ways is unimportant; the main thing is how you respond.
Be aware of your own response to others’ behaviours.
Know where your response originates.
Understand your current impact on others.

Understanding why people behave in certain ways is unimportant; the main thing is how you respond.
Be aware of your own response to others’ behaviours.
Know where your response originates.
Understand your current impact on others.

the experience people have of working with you is just as important as the result you produce.