Amber Lea’s Reviews > The High-Conflict Couple: A Dialectical Behavior Therapy Guide to Finding Peace, Intimacy, and Validation > Status Update

I'm always squeamish when advice requires you to conceal your real thoughts and opinions. While I think being kind is incredibly important, I think ultimately, so is honesty.

"Without validation, the person expressing might as well be talking to the wall."

RIGHT?!

I'm working on a book in response to this book.

I very much feel like this book needs some disclaimers. I mean, it's a book about how to deal with arguments, but there's never anything that stops you and says, "Hey man, verbal abuse is bad. You should get away from that shit." It's just like, "How to cope with getting yelled at..." Uhh, NO.

So far it's not telling me anything I haven't figured out for myself, but goddamn, I could have used this about 10 years ago. I used to be the absolute worst at making myself feel like shit. But I hope this book has good tips on how to be more effective in a conflict.