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This book is so damn good!!! I love her narration. This feels like one of those "every human who interacts with kids should read this" books. ✨️💖

I get caught off guard by the way Irby crafts a sentence - and all of a sudden, I'm laughing aloud. The porn chapter, as well as the QVC chapter, are ranking at the top currently. 🤣

"Patriarchal masculinity insists that real men must prove their manhood by idolizing aloneness and disconnection. Feminist masculinity tells men that they become more real through the act of connecting with others, through building community."
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"There seems to be a fear that if men are raised to be people of integrity, people who can love, they will be unable to be forceful and act violently if needed."

"What the world needs now are men who are empathic and strong, autonomous, connected, responsible to self, to family and friends and to society, and capable of understanding how those responsibilities are ultimately inseparable."

"Despite the contemporary visionary feminist thinking that makes clear that a patriarchal thinker need not be a male, most folks continue to see men as the problem of patriarchy. This is simply not the case. Women can be as wedded to patriarchal thinking and action as men."

"To indoctrinate boys into the rules of patriarchy, we force them to feel pain and to deny their feelings.
All boys and girls suffer the assaults of patriarchy to a greater or lesser degree. No doubt, creating a loving home that is not patriarchal, one can at least offer their boys a choice; they can choose to be themselves, or they can choose conformity with patriarchal roles."