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"For many couples, just realizing that they shouldn’t take their everyday interactions for granted makes an enormous difference in their relationship.".

Then I've come to what I admire from my husband since our earlier days. He tends to use 'we' pronounce instead of 'you', when something wrong was going on. He knows that sometimes I caught in fault. Sometimes my consideration fumbled. But he cherished me instead.

Aku belum pernah baca buku ttg pernikahan/relationship lainnya, tapi buatku setelah membaca 90 halaman buku ini, isinya terasa sangat make sense sekaligus memvalidasi apa yang aku rasakan di kehidupan pernikahanku.

An interesting read so far — I'd heard of "The Four Horsemen" before as part of the Gottman method, but it was helpful to explore them a bit deeper in that last chapter. I've just gotten to the first principle now, but my partner has actually started a different book on marriage (lol) which is a lot shorter, so I might pause here and read that one first. Stay tuned!

...simple truth that happy marriages are based on a deep friendship.

Finally I read this, yeay! Wishlist sejak 2 bulan terakhir karena lihat review seseorang. Baca ebook di Google Playbook, kebetulan di akunku sedang sale. Thank you Playbook :)

Not that great

Dr. Gottman is definitely not a Catholic familiar with the Catechism of the Council of Trent and what it teaches about the clear duties of husband and wife. He is probably a secular feminist. For example, He’s biased towards women being in the right and asserts that the men in the relationship are the ones needing to do the learning. This comes to light especially in chapter 7.

I bought this book when I was 20 years old and have had it since then lol So far I think the advice contained within this is redundant as the author finds new ways to say some of the same things, but the basis of the principles is helpful

So far good, there are assignments given and they're kinda cute lol. It's assignment heavy in chapter 3-5 so far. This isn't a genre I usually choose, but as someone married for less than a year, knowing both of us are children of divorce, I want all the help we can get.

I love the connection exercises this book has

YES IM READING A NON FICTION BOOK DON’T JUDGE ME!!!!! 😂😂

apparently it's based on a cohort study

this is honestly very good and helpful. it's based on research (600 couples), backed by a proven success rate (20% relapse rate of troubled marriages if using this workshop vs 30%-50% relapse rate of troubled marriages if using couple therapy). each of the principle part is filled with assessment criteria, then practical exercises to improve each principle.

the intro is so redundant and long lmaooo. we get it, we get it. your research and findings are so awesome that we need to be hyped up for your 7 principles even tho that's literally why we read the book in first place

Doing our homework for couples therapy tomorrow 🫡❣️

Been listening to this while I make dinner. Low key boring but definitely informative

67 percent of wives experience a plummet of marital satisfaction after having children.

It's important for a husband to join the wife in the metamorphosis of raising and taking care of the baby.

Men have to realize how important the household chores are to the wife, it's important to speak about how money and house chores will work.

Work stress, in-laws, money, sex, housework internet fueled distractions, and a new baby are the most typical areas of marital conflict.

They are explaining how after our heart goes above 100 beats per minute, it becomes difficult to hear what our spouse is saying.

He was explaining how it's ideally to start disagreemetns off with a slow and soft start to make it easier to process.

He also explained how men are wired to be more alert for longer and our biology keep us stressed for longer so that is why men avoid arguments with their wives usually.

“Successful relationships live by the motto: When you are in pain, the world stops and I listen.”

“When your partner comes to you for emotional support (rather than for advice), your job is not to cast moral judgment or to tell him or her what to do. It is to express empathy. In other words, your job is to say ‘poor baby!’”

List of rehearsing positive daily thoughts

When a husband is not willing to share power with his wife there is a 81 percent chance the marriage will self-destruct.

How have I not read this book yet? SO good.

“In the strongest marriages, husband and wife share a deep sense of meaning. They don’t just get along; they also support each other’s hopes and aspirations, and build a sense of purpose into their lives together.”

Oh my gosh how have I not read this before? Soooo good.

SO GOOD

I’m underlining more lines than not 🤪

PSO=Positive Sentimetn Overide=

is when someone consistently interprets their partner’s words or actions more positively than intended, often due to strong positive feelings or a healthy relationship.