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“Taravangian is wrong, the Stormfather said. You are not a hypocrite, Son of Honor. “I am,” Dalinar said softly. “But sometimes a hypocrite is nothing more than a person who is in the process of changing.”
― Brandon Sanderson, Oathbringer

“I have to.”
“Do you?”
“I have to. It’s who I am.”
“Then perhaps,” Harmony said, “you should stop hating that, my son.” He extended the hand.”
― Brandon Sanderson, The Bands of Mourning

“If nobody asked questions, then we would never learn anything.”
― Brandon Sanderson, Oathbringer

“They will try,” Jasnah said, “to define you by something you are not. Don’t let them. I can be a scholar, a woman, a historian, a Radiant. People will still try to classify me by the thing that makes me an outsider. They want, ironically, the thing I don’t do or believe to be the prime marker of my identity. I have always rejected that, and will continue to do so.” She reached over and put her freehand on his arm. “You are not a heretic, Dalinar Kholin. You are a king, a Radiant, and a father. You are a man with complicated beliefs, who does not accept everything you are told. You decide how you are defined. Don’t surrender that to them. They will gleefully take the chance to define you, if you allow it.” Dalinar nodded slowly.”
― Brandon Sanderson, Oathbringer