Rubesh Gain

“Buddhist story goes that a man came shouting angrily at Buddha, who remained unaffected by him. When questioned by others as to how he remained calm and unaffected, Buddha answered with a question. ‘If someone gives you a gift and you choose not to receive it, to whom then does the gift belong?’ Of course it stays with the giver. And so it was with words that continued to be unjustly dumped onto me at times. I stopped taking them on and felt compassion instead. Those words were not coming from a place of happiness.”
― Bronnie Ware, Top Five Regrets of the Dying: A Life Transformed by the Dearly Departing