Nick

“Another way we control them is by being “nice,” passive or quiet for long periods of time. Then, when fear or other feelings overwhelm us, we rage, isolate or allow others to act out our feelings for us.”
― CoDA, CO-DEPENDENTS ANONYMOUS

“In giving the power of our Higher Power to other people, we may seek others’ approval, often to the point of abandoning our own needs and desires. We live in fear of those we put in power. We dread their anger or disapproving looks. We fear their disappointment, avoidance or control. In essence, we lose our sense of self (or never gain it) because we become obsessed with their attitudes and behaviors toward us.”
― CoDA, CO-DEPENDENTS ANONYMOUS

“When there is no possibility of making direct amends, being of service to others is our amends. In giving, we receive. Through God’s grace, and in gratefully offering our service to others, we gain peace in a spirit once filled with remorse and pain.”
― CoDA, CO-DEPENDENTS ANONYMOUS

“The first thing I remember learning was to be afraid of what other people would think of me. I now understand that this is what it means to be ruled by shame.”
― CoDA, CO-DEPENDENTS ANONYMOUS