Kiersten Isaacks

“This is about what’s best for your relationship. If you won’t put your shame and embarrassment aside long enough to apologize when you’ve done something hurtful to your partner—and let’s face it, being human, you will do something hurtful from time to time—then you’re likely not emotionally mature enough to be in a relationship.”
― Nic Saluppo, Communicate Your Feelings (without starting a fight): What to Say and What Not to Say to Your Partner

“Ask God for help. “Let your requests be made known to God” (Phil. 4:6). Fear triggers either despair or prayer. Choose wisely.”
― Max Lucado, Anxious for Nothing: Finding Calm in a Chaotic World

“saying something like, “Such and such happened and it made me so mad . . .” He’d interject with, “Now, watch what you’re saying. You’re giving away your power when you say something made you feel.”
― Nic Saluppo, Communicate Your Feelings (without starting a fight): What to Say and What Not to Say to Your Partner

“For those of you with partners who aren’t yet experienced in the art of communicating, you’ll want to take preventative measures. Before saying “I think you don’t care about me and I feel sad about that,” consider prefacing your statement with: “I’m going to share my perspective and experience. I’m not saying you have to agree with my reasons for it—I’ll be open to discussing those. However, I do firmly ask that you respect my feelings—don’t tell me how I should or shouldn’t feel.” The Gottman Institute refers to this method as a soft startup. Essentially, it’s a technique that prepares your partner for what you’re about to say instead of laying it on them with no warning. A soft startup can remove the shock factor and make it easier for your partner to hear what”
― Nic Saluppo, Communicate Your Feelings (without starting a fight): What to Say and What Not to Say to Your Partner