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“[...] it should be obvious that for the new woman, love and identity are mutually exclusive. A woman can have love or she can have an “ego,” but she can’t have both. [...] Love means the extinction of personality. A woman can only be herself if she renounces love. [...] The new woman is a self that is forever lonely, drawn to a love that is forever devouring and humiliating.”
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“Liberalism freed men from superstitions like belief in God. Yet, once there was no God, once the moral law had been discredited as equally superstitious, then social control becomes a necessity because the object of self-control, the passions, now had nothing to give them direction or keep them under control. Just as social chaos was the natural result of liberalism’s philosophy, so social control was the natural result of its politics; the one flowed inexorably from the order. The paradox of liberalism lay in the fact that it promoted passion as liberation from traditional morals and belief in God, but only as an intermediary stage followed by the imposition of another more draconian order which it established the benefit not of priests but of scientists and their wealth backers in industry and the regime.”
― Libido Dominandi: Sexual Liberation and Political Control
― Libido Dominandi: Sexual Liberation and Political Control
“Kollontai stumbles upon the essence of sexual liberation as a form of control; it is “voluntary incarceration.” Because the will is more important than reason to the revolutionary, because in effect will is the essence of reason for both the Marxist and the Nietzschean, the revolutionary is unable to see how he is enslaved by his own will because he is unable to see the role that passion plays in that self-subversion. All the revolutionary can see is his passion, and because his only thought is how to gratify those passions - morals having discredited as “bourgeois” - he is blind to how his passions control him.”
― Libido Dominandi: Sexual Liberation and Political Control
― Libido Dominandi: Sexual Liberation and Political Control
“Kollotai’s book, written in the disillusionment of exile, was a frank description of how liberation felt from the inside; it also granted a candid look into the psyches of those who had liberated themselves from morals only to find themselves, as a result, the slaves of passion.”
― Libido Dominandi: Sexual Liberation and Political Control
― Libido Dominandi: Sexual Liberation and Political Control
“Bessel van der Kolk told me. He then cited Socrates: “An unexamined life is not worth living. As long as one doesn’t examine oneself, one is completely subject to whatever one is wired to do, but once you become aware that you have choices, you can exercise those choices.”
― The Myth of Normal: Trauma, Illness and Healing in a Toxic Culture
― The Myth of Normal: Trauma, Illness and Healing in a Toxic Culture
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