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to be or not to be a "cougar" that is the question?
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If I was single, I'd date younger guys. And guys my own age, and older guys. I've dated men of random ages before. Who cares, as long as you're both available and not cheating? I agree, this is not news...
Interesting article.I can't say for sure, Petra, but my guess is that anyone criticizing your dating habits is probably just jealous. Pay them no heed.
I find the term to be offensive at best. It should not be 'news' in any worthwhile sense. If a woman is dating a younger man, than he is a stud and she is a semi-desperate woman trying to hold on to her lingering youth and/or looks. Older man/younger woman, he's worldly, charming, sexy etc...while she is a gold digger or a 'sugar baby'. Both concepts seem so degrading to me while the men get off with nothing more than a 'nudge and a wink'. Why can't we all just date whom ever we want and leave it alone?
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Sigh, to be 45 again! Just kidding.I really don't know what I would do if I were single but I think I would be open to dating younger men. I agree that people should date who they want. I have several friends who are single and in their 50's and are amazing. But the pool of dating prospects for them are slim to none. I have told them they should check out match.com or something because it is crazy that no one seems to be interested. As far as the cougar term goes-I really get so sick of labels we put on people just to stick them in some category.
I don't know why this is news either. I think the label is a little insulting but that's just me and I've wondered if women like it or find it insulting. When I got to the aprt that described Mrs. Robinson from The Graduate as "libidinous" and "scandalous" I figured the article had to be written by a man. Why couldn't Mrs. Robinson be liberated and independent? Or just sexual and free? Dating is difficult so whatever works for both is good.
I'm open to dating younger,and I have, but older ones (in my experience) are SOOOO much more interesting. And since i know people are going to be thinking "what about the sex," please give me a guy who has years of experience and does it once right over a kid who can do it badly a few times. Thanks.
Lobstergirl wrote: "Gross. I hate that word. I've sometimes wondered what it would be like to be a squirrel or a bird, though."I want to be a guppy, or just gup. Its just sounds whimiscal to me.
Now, I should say that I like them older because I'M older. I don't want to insult any young people out there. And I don't expect them to find me all that interesting either!
BunWat wrote: "I do sometimes date younger just because there's a somewhat higher average among men older than me of the i-dots who tend to try to patronise me and get me to do their housework. And then there's,..."Haha
BunWat wrote: "I get that Rebecca. But are you saying that you like men who are older than you are? Or that you like men who are your age? Confuized.Thanks Suefly, I like to make people laugh."
You made me laugh out loud...it was a funny post. :-0
Oh, okay. Well, I like them best from late 40s onward. That used to be older than me. Now, sadly, it is not!
"everybody want's to be a cat, because a cat's the only cat who knows where it's at..."
ok, so i find that guys my age are just boring or want someone to take care of them like Bun said. I don't want to be a nurse and a purse for anyone. Younger guys I have dated say they don't want kids, they don't want to get married. Perfect, because neither do I. The women their age hear that biological clock a ticking. The younger women get the old men for security and the older women get the young men for having some fun without all the strings attached. Seems like a good resolution to me.
I wanna know why women get called names for every freaking thing they do? I hate the term!!!
Suefly wrote: "Why can't we all just date whom ever we want and leave it alone?"
What she said. Regardless of age, any time Tab A fits nicely into Slot B, it's a beautiful thing.
What she said. Regardless of age, any time Tab A fits nicely into Slot B, it's a beautiful thing.
Some prefer slot C, or even another tab.
A LARGE Tab?
Put that away, Larry. Nobody here needs to see your large tab tonight.
Larry wrote: "Why'd you have to call her a slot?"Would she rather be a hole?
I prefer tab A usually go into slot A, but to each his or her own.
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Don't wear this to meet the Queen.
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ms.petra wrote: "ok, so i find that guys my age are just boring or want someone to take care of them like Bun said. I don't want to be a nurse and a purse for anyone. Younger guys I have dated say they don't want k..."
Wait. Would you repeat that? I was distracted by your new avatar photo.
Wait. Would you repeat that? I was distracted by your new avatar photo.
Mr. Angela is 4 years younger than I. Does that make me a cougar? If so, Rarrrrrr, I say, rarrrrrr.
no sure that if you think you are a cougar that you actually are. isn't this like "hot", for someone else to decide?
really? totally an age thing? i thought there had to be an attraction of some sort. if it is simple math, is barbara walters a cougar?
Bun, I think it is dating someone much younger. I would not call Angela a cougar. Also, cougar has the connotation of prowling... a woman who is out looking for that young stud.
BunWat wrote: "Huh? A cougar is a woman who dates and or sleeps with men who are younger than she is. So of course there's some kind of attraction or they wouldn't be having sex, but its still simple math. If s..."A Bear in my world is a big hairy gay man!
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Viagra Triangle:
A sub set of the "Rush Street" nightlife district on Chicago's Near North Side. So named for the abundance of mostly-affluent older men who frequent the local bars, and the "triangle" where State and Rush Streets come together (with East Bellevue Street being the base of the triangle, anchored by Gibson's restaurant, the unofficial headquarters).
The gentle ecosystem of the Viagra Triangle could not exist without a fully-stocked pond of anxious, and artificially infertile females. Seven years prior she may have been called a "Trixie" in and around Lincoln Park, but with an East Bank membership, a Platinum card of her own, and several upgrades to the base Lexus, she is looking for more, while her looks and latest Botox treatment hold out).
Though, claimed as fact in other definitions, it is extremely rare to see participants in the Viagra Triangle scene parking their behinds, much less their Flying Spurs and 911s, anywhere south of Oak Street or North of Cedar. The important, and notable exception is when the bars in the triangle close, and he has not yet sealed the deal. In such cases, overtime must be played at The Lodge on Division Street, which is open til every bit of 4AM during the week and 5AM on the weekends ("if three bottles of Cristal have not done the job, maybe a few PBRs will," is the thinking). [Urban Dictionary]
An interesting article in the Denver Post today. I fall squarely into this age group and profile, but I don't consider myself a cougar. I find it somewhat hypocritical that men have been dating much younger women and/or trading in their wives for younger models for years and now that women are doing it, it is shocking! It is news!
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