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The TMI Thread
I got married when I was 39. Up until I was oh, about 35, I still wasn't through sowing my wild oats, adhering to the creed "16 forever."
The upside: More financially stable and established in career.
The downside: It's often hard to keep up with my kids although I can still whup their asses in any running, skating, swimming, throwing, or biking competition.
Your results may vary.
The upside: More financially stable and established in career.
The downside: It's often hard to keep up with my kids although I can still whup their asses in any running, skating, swimming, throwing, or biking competition.
Your results may vary.
One of my daughter's friend's folks were married 20 years before they had little Rachel. They were both 50 years old when she was born. At kindergarten roundup everyone asked them about their granddaughter Rachel.
Cynthia wrote: "One of my daughter's friend's folks were married 20 years before they had little Rachel. They were both 50 years old when she was born. At kindergarten roundup everyone asked them about their grand..."
I get that occasionally since I'm 86.42% grey. I tell the offender, "Someday you'll pay."
I get that occasionally since I'm 86.42% grey. I tell the offender, "Someday you'll pay."
Cynthia - no I am not still married. After that, the boy next door and I reconnected and have been together almost 20 years.
Carol--The boy next door! That is terrific. 19 is a bit young. Though I met hubby when I was 18 or 19, and we married at 21! Still pretty young but by some miracle (or 2) we lasted since 1980, still going strong. Probably just dumb luck.
I used to be a boy next door. Is that TMI?
When I was five, my best friend was the boy next door. He had a blonde crew cut and I loved him truly and madly. His mom always had a root beer popsicle waiting for me. Sigh.
Cynthia wrote: "Carol--The boy next door! That is terrific. 19 is a bit young. Though I met hubby when I was 18 or 19, and we married at 21! Still pretty young but by some miracle (or 2) we lasted since 1980, stil..."
My wife and I met when I was 17 and she was 15. That was really young, but it worked for us.
My wife and I met when I was 17 and she was 15. That was really young, but it worked for us.
I love these stories of young love that worked out.
The one that didn't work out - we met when I was 14 and he was 19, married when I was 19, split at 22. The boy next door (to my best friend) - we met (not dated) when I was 10, he was 15. Boys working on cars, dreamy.
Oh, that was always a selling point for me too. I loved when J. would work on our VW bug, and taught me how to do basic maintenance. Totally dreamy.
Cynthia wrote: "I love these stories of young love that worked out."::sighing:: and I love seeing old couples walking holding hands and smooching. :) It is too late for young love, but I will not give up hope on middle age love!
I worked out today. I don't like walking, but I do like the cycling thing that simulates you biking down a path or a track. But the seat hurts my butt.I walked/biked 2 miles today!
Great Brit! one day at a time. A friend posted about IndoRow today and it sounds like it would be a great workout if you can find a class. What floor are you in your dorm? My girl is on the 10th and she told me she is taking the stairs up at least once a day. All those little things add up to success!
I don't know how to swim.Misha, how did you like Lolita?
Ms.petra, I'm on the fifth floor, and the elevator is my friend haha.
I hate needing pills to sleep and, uh, function.
I hate being excited about something I can't tell anyone about.
I ♥ my new bra (no underwire... so comfy; very cute). :)
Phil wrote: "Pics?"Spit out my water, thanks, Phil....:)
I sit downstairs in Lenoir (one of the dining halls) because I can sit at a table against the wall and enjoy my lunch. That's where I am now, and a huge group of people just sat down at my table, and my solitude is gone. And I swear this girl just looked at me like "Why is she still sitting here?" ughhhhhhhhh
Please email or text me tomorrow. Please please please.Please? Please. Don't let me down. I won't go too far, I promise.
Phil wrote: "Pics?"Hahahaha, this made my day (needed that chuckle) . . . and I think someone (anyone) should suggest pics be a standard requirement with this thread . . . hah ;)
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Maybe there does need to be a bra thread. "Breasts looking for good home" or something.
Lobstergirl, I am going to guess this will be received with RESOUNDING APPROVAL from the "that's what she said" gallery! :)
I have a bra that's really pink and pretty. It's a push up with an underwire and it gives me NO SUPPORT WHATSOEVER.
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A serious, consumer-oriented thread.
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Push-ups are a disaster, in general.
Lobstergirl wrote: " A serious, consumer-oriented thread."I'm sorry, I wasn't trying to offend you or trivialize your suggestion, I was just kidding that men find a way to enjoy the subject regardless of the intentions.
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my wife is coming home tonight after being gone two weeks. i will be occupied from like 8pm until morning. the visqueen is being delivered at 6:30."kids...no matter what you think you hear mommy is having fun and likes it"
Chicka chicka yeah!
LOL Go get her Kev! Ya know, those poor traumatized kids should know better and leave you alone. "I have a bra that's really pink and pretty. It's a push up with an underwire and it gives me NO SUPPORT WHATSOEVER"
Okay Britt, the visual I had of you saying this with an avatar that is a hairy dude made me totally snort!
For some reason I think we have a bra thread. No, I'm serious. Let me look.
Ha! We have two:Dangerous bras:
http://www.goodreads.com/topic/show/3...
Bras as storage facilities:
http://www.goodreads.com/topic/show/3...
I remember the "as storage facilities" thread... the other, not so much. I must've been on vacation. My cell phone is in my bra now! YAY for staying consistent!!!
Just finished working out again. Now I am ready to have dinner, go to my room, and watch Mad Men.
Okay, so at the end of last semester, I told a boy that I liked him. He's a mutual friend (the twin brother of one of my best friend's boyfriend), and we're all pretty close. He told me that the reason why he was "turning me down" is because he wasn't looking for a relationship. I wasn't looking for a relationship either, and I'm not sexually attracted to him (meaning I don't want to have sex with him because I'm not sexually attracted to boys my age), but I did have more-than-friends feelings for him. I didn't want a relationship...I just wanted to know if he liked me.Well, he gave me that bullshit excuse, and then I was explaining to our friend the complexity of my feelings for him, and she relayed that information back over to him. He told her that he isn't sexually attracted to me, and that's why he doesn't want me.
I'm livid. Why didn't he just tell me that he finds me ugly when I told him that I liked him the first time? And when I said that I didn't want to have sex with him, I meant just that. I think he's cute, I just don't want that.
I want to cry because it just hurts when someone tells you that they aren't attracted to you. I mean, I thought he was, it just wasn't the right time, but apparently it won't ever be the right time.
Dammit. Dammit. Dammit.
There are a LOT of exceptionally beautiful women for whom I feel no sexual stirrings. There are also a LOT of woman-next-door women who turn me on no end.When someone doesn't find you sexually arousing it's primarily about them, not you. Period.
You know what gets my motor running? A confident woman who takes care of herself and is comfortable with who she is. Most attractive feature? A SMILE.
This may sound mean, but I truly don't mean it that way... GET OUT OF YOUR HEAD. Try to limit your analysis of everything someone does or says, and just be your own damn self. THAT is what's sexy.
Wow. You guys are fucking awesome. What a great place. PHIL! Great advice. Seriously, amazing and so insightful. You too, Barb and Misha. I wish I knew women like you when I was feeling those feelings. And Britt, I wish I had the balls to tell people I was feeling those feelings so I could have heard this great advice.
We have all been 19 once, it's not that easy. All the above wonderful advise has come from long long years of experience. I have to agree with Smetchie. The advise is awesome.
I also agree with Misha, keep talking Britt. Just being able to share helps, even if you don't necessarily listen to all the advise.
I also love Phils advise "I truly don't mean it that way... GET OUT OF YOUR HEAD" we are often our own worst enemy. I have seriously got to get out of my own head at the moment.
I also agree with Misha, keep talking Britt. Just being able to share helps, even if you don't necessarily listen to all the advise.
I also love Phils advise "I truly don't mean it that way... GET OUT OF YOUR HEAD" we are often our own worst enemy. I have seriously got to get out of my own head at the moment.
Britt you sound so much like my own daughter and I just want to give you a big hug and say listen to Uncle Phil! We must be confident in ourselves and love ourselves. If you or I are seeking validation from someone else in order to be happy, then we will not be happy. Don't compromise yourself for someone else's idea of beauty, happiness, fun, whatever. Find the things you enjoy and do them and you will meet people that share your values and interests. What Barb said about sex is true...in fact sex often clouds our judgement and leads us to do stupid things or overlook things we normally would not tolerate. Like Gail said we are here as your sounding board ::hugs::
Britt you are getting some golden advice here and I hope you keep posting, I admire you and your bold posts...keep em coming. Also I gotta say everyone is so right, especially about defining yourself. I never got the chance to do that, I was a mother at 17 and a military wife at barely 18. And I must say that what little definition of self I had went out the window long ago. If you asked me to described myslef to you right now I could only tell you what I am, not who I am. I'm not sure if that actually makes sense but I'm not sure how else to say it. I've just recently started to try and remedy this...I have a feeling it will be a long and somewhat painful road to walk but I'm looking forward to finding me at the end of it.
Bravo to Phil! I wish someone had told me that stuff when I was 19. :)Alecia, it took me many years to find myself too, although not for the same reasons as yours, and I'm finally really happy with who I am. It IS so worth it, but try to enjoy the journey too.
In fact, I wish I could go back to my younger self now (20 yrs later) and shake me and say "You are adorable. You are sexy. You are intelligent and a interesting. Stop worrying so much about boys and what others think, and just have some freaking FUN. It'll all fall into place when it's supposed to." Cause ultimately it will.
It is pretty accurate in his case. He's still a nerd and I love that quality in a man.