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So, how did you learn about the birds and the bees?
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Nisha
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Apr 19, 2010 07:07PM
Recently, I participated in an icebreaker with the very same question. Some of the answers I got ranged from gross to hilarious to just plain boring. I'm sure everyone has a story so please share, if you don't mind.
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Since, my introduction is literally, manga to yaoi to HR to romantica, its really not interesting. No pun intended.But a friend of mine said that he walked in on his parents, when he was very young (before he knew what it meant), and thought that his father was hurting his mother. He ends up finding a baseball bat to protect his mother. Not sure if he hit his dad, but now it sounds funny and only slightly embarrassing
Mostly romance novels, I think. ;) But that was gallant of your friend, LOL.
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That's a very embarrassing way to find out about sex for your friend.
You know...I don't recall my parents sitting me down for "the talk". I do remember reading Judy Blume's "Forever" and being slightly scandalized by the teen sex. LOL. That's what got me started on romance novels.
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Yea, very embarrassing, for both sides, but i think there's a lesson in it for everyone: always make sure to lock your door.
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LOL! It's lucky that we all liked to read so much when we were younger.
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Yeah!
much safer alternative. I just can't understand how in the past, women only learned about it right before they were married.
They were kept in the dark. I think that's a recipe for disaster. She'll be more afraid on her wedding night, and her husband will feel like a rapist, LOL.
I was told first by the boy next door. That made no sense. When I was around 10, my mom got me this big humongous book "Our Bodies, Ourselves." I remember being disgusted because the book looked full of hippies and my mom used to tell me hippies didn't take baths. The writing was too small and too much for my young mind, so I hung in with the pictures. A bunch of diagrams and naked women later, I was sick to my stomach. Funny how I wound up being a total hippy later in life. Ha ha. My mom really had no idea.But seriously, when I was 13 my mom noticed I was interested in boys so I got the talk which sounded somewhere along the lines of a general warning his troops of the enemy. I was to by no means engage the enemy in any "tongues" and we were to keep our dress down and our drawers up.
"But mom, I don't like wearing dresses."
"Don't get cute! It's a man's place to ask and a woman's place to refuse."
"Refuse what?"
"Try and have sex with you."
By then I had kissed a boy and engaged in a little petting. I had figured out how sex worked because I had come across my dad's porno stash. I didn't care to have sex, but kissing felt mighty good, but I didn't tell my mom that.
It didn't matter because my mom had somehow bugged the microchip the aliens implanted in my brain at birth. She seemed to always know what I was thinking. In her meanest most intimidating voice she said: "Ain't no babies coming here, so you better keep your legs together!"
My mom's meanest voice was the same voice that spoke to Charleton Heston in the Ten Commandments. A fireball burned her words into my brain. I went back to my big hippy book of sex and I read all the little fine print to make sure no male sperm could sneak up into my uterus without my knowing.
So needless to say, out of my mother's vagueness, I managed to educate myself through my hippy book, Penthouse and whatever erotica I could get my hands on at the time.
My mother was of the generation where parent's didn't have those kinds of talks with their kids. But she did allow me take sex education class in middle school. Didn't learn much though, this was the 70's mind you.One day she notice my now husband was hanging around our house a lot, so she asked my sister who's that little fellow on the porch with your sister. To which my sister replied that's her boyfriend. Next thing I know we're on a bus and at the health department and my mother tells the nurse I won't her on birth control. And I guess that's how I really learned about the birds and bees.
