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Eh, I'm rarely on there. There's a lot of spam, and if it's not spam, then it's updates on everyone and their mother. Some people like that kind of minutiae, I don't. It was a nice tool to share pics and keep in touch easily, but now I don't even do much of that since the UI has become so cumbersome.
I do go on there to play Mafia Wars & Farmville (I compete against my dad...he's addicted). I don't socialize unless it's a rare comment to a family member or friend.
I'm not on Facebook or Twitter and I don't want to be. Let people wonder a little about what you're up to, is my take on it. Makes you more interesting in the long run. People don't need to know every tiny detail about my life nor I about theirs.
Besides what do you talk about offline if everyone already knows everything about you? Don't get it.
I don't like FB either, but I go on there for business mainly. When I'm singing, my husband's band or I have a faire, I post it. I have people who come down to my shows and my gigs from it. Also, I've gotten in touch with people from my old school and old friends have found me, so in that I like it.My co-workers are all on there so we b.s. with each other throughout the day and that can be fun.
My friends joke with me because they send me all this stuff like invites, gifts, page suggestions and so on and they ask why I didn't respond and I said I just don't.
Then I have some of those friends who have to let everybody and their mother know that they're picking their nose, slurping coffee, staring out the window and I scroll right by those. It's amazing how serious some people take themselves.
Facebook helps stay in contact with family and friends in Barbados, Canada , England and beyond.It is not cheap to call these places often(even though my hubby got us a phone plan that is great) it adds up. Before FB it was MSN or Yahoo messenger.
I have found primary and secondary school friends who I lost touch with when I left Barbados.
I am not aware of any spam and I think there is someway to change your settings so you don't get those annoying Help this kitten or turtle messages lol
which I do send sometimes lol
Like anything in this world it drive you around the bloody bend if it gets to be too much..everything in moderation.
Ohh I also like looking at pictures..I am nosy like that!
Hi Sharon,The spam I am getting is from folks on my friend's list. Even when I push that button, you know where you can report it as spam, nothing happens. It's the same people everyday spamming my box, other authors, blog talk radio hosts, self-publishers, business owners, etc. These people need to realize that spamming isn't a good way to promote and it will only drive folks away. I've deleted some folks off my list but my list is way too big for me to delete all the trouble makers so that's why I flag their messages, LOL! I thought FB took care of reported spam but I guess there's so many people on there it's beyond their control.
The spam is so bad I don't even check my inbox on there anymore. I've had people who've written me important messages through FB and I had to tell them to email me to my regular email address because I can't and won't climb through that spam in my FB box. LOL.
Best Wishes!
http://www.stacy-deanne.net
I can understand its usefulness as a professional tool, Chaeya or in Sharon's case where you don't have your family around you, but otherwise if I get on there, it'd be a waste of time for me. I already spend waaay too much time on GR and Amazon, I don't need FB added to the mix. My sons are always nagging me to get on FB because its easier and quicker to keep in touch rather than sending an email they say. Too bad. My husband gets on their occassionally to keep up with them. That's enough easy and quick for them. They can continue writing emails to me. My son who goes school out in Cali sends me a lot of jokes and funny pictures which I appreciate a lot. Somehow I don't know that he'd do that on FB. My company is also on Facebook, but I've never visited our page on there because it doesn't really have anything to do with my job. We mainly use it as a recruitment method targetted at college grads.
People do spam through there. I have received mail from people I don't even remember accepting as friends. I just delete them if I don't know who it's from. Also, what I don't like is the "Fan" thing. I'm friends with one guy who's an actor but then I get an invite to become a "fan." Dude, do you really need two pages for yourself? I have two but one is my business name and one is me. Because I have mostly the same friends, I take care not to double post. I send invites out only once in a while, but that's it. So I can understand people's irritation with that.Eugenia, I just came across that recently when one of my friends changed her status. I've never paid attention to it until she mentioned it yesterday. She had it on "in a relationship" and I guess after her last break up months ago had forgotten to change it. I didn't realize people were fooling around with it so much.
One thing I learned that when people send you game updates like FV and MW, there is a button to the right where you can go "Hide" these and they won't show them anymore.
Oh and I love playing some games..yes I do lolI do not get those spam things in my inbox
I just don't understand how some folks can "forget" that FB and Twitter are public. They say the most private and personal things on these sites and it makes you wonder, did they forget anyone and their mother can see this stuff? There have been people who got fired from jobs for saying stuff on these sites, actors and authors who've gotten in trouble for badmouthing the people they work with. Authors especially get in trouble on Twitter for talking about reviewers. I think what's happened is people dirtied the system for what it was supposed to be, just like MySpace. Twitter and FB are okay if you use it with some sense but some folks talk about stuff like they feel it's only a roomful of two people. There's folks on FB that are married with their spouses on there and they still flirt! I mean, come on, can't you be respectful?
People are not cautious at all these days. These sites are the most popular in the world, globally and so, once you say something on there, you can't take it back.
People also talk about others and don't realize that person has family or friends on their and it gets back to them. An author was saying she didn't like her agent and was gonna leave her on FB last year. Well, the agent didn't see it but her husband did! Needless to say, the author didn't have to leave the agent from that point on. The agent relieved her of that duty, LOL!
And let's not forget women and children need to be very cautious. Women need to be careful about talking to all those men on Facebook because half of them are either married, ex-cons, perverts or criminals. I'd be very careful before meeting someone in person from Facebook if I didn't know anything about him. But some women advertise themselves on there like they're a piece of meat. Women putting up pictures of themselves in their underwear and I'm like, "Uh, do you realize other folks can see you in your underwear?" Do they not realize that folks can steal those pics and post them anywhere? How can folks be so careless with something that could be so potentially damaging? What if you were sitting on facebook half naked and your boss sees you? You think you'd have your job much longer? Nope! They fire folks for the things they do online all the time.
That's what I think about when I see people being so careless you know? And why do some of the women on there act so desperate?
Sharon, go on and play your games, girl! We ain't mad at'cha! LOL!
Best Wishes!
http://www.stacy-deanne.net
Eugenia, you brought up another important thing about these sites, folks use them to hack into people's accounts and that can lead to even identity theft if that's what the person's after. People just need to be careful and I can't feel sorry for folks that don't act with sense and good judgment while using FB. You got adults on there acting like little kids in La La Land, like nothing dangerous can come from their actions. Did they forget how many people are stalked and killed because of someone they met online, or something they said?Best Wishes!
More reasons for me not to get on Facebook.
I got on facebook after an old college friend suggested it. We hadn't been in contact in about 15 years. We didn't have a great spat or anything, we just drifted away. She said she was thinking about me one day and googled me and found me based on my job's website. We chatted and she told me I had to get on FB!Once I got on, I reconnected with my entire college crew. LOL. It was awesome to catch up with people I haven't spoken to in almost 20 years. And so many of us posted pics of the old days with hilarious stories and reminiscences.
We recently had a reunion in NYC and it was a blast! Apparently this was the 6th reunion of this kind and this last year it was the biggest turn out yet b/c of how people reconnected using FB. It was like the intervening years had never passed. We all settled into our old patterns. It was great.
Now, I like using it to keep in touch with them and with my cousins. I have a large, sprawling family and we are all over the place. So it is nice to keep each other up-to-date all at once.
I think that with anything like this, it is important to understand how the site uses your privacy. I have my settings on the strictest privacy settings. You can make it so that people googling you can't even see that you exist on FB. I have it so only my friends can see my profile or even my pictures. If someone tags me in a photo and I don't want to be tagged, I untag it and prohibit from being tagged again.
I also set up a separate dedicated email account through yahoo just for that site alone. I have never had an issue with SPAM or anything. My notifications are only those I allow.
I also don't friend everyone who asks. On a site like FB, if I don't already know you I am not willing to friend you. My friend list is very small compared to some people. I have only about 70 friends. And half of those are family members.
So it works out very well for me. I honestly don't think I could have found all my old buddies without FB or a site like it.
I don't get Twitter lolThat is going to far
I've never had spam from facebook. I have strict privacy settings activated. The only emails I receive from FB are when I get an occasional message directly from one of my family members. I don't have any private information on there except for a handful of pics. Nothing major. I've also been found by some old classmates that I haven't seen in over 20 years. It's been interesting to say the least, but I mainly just like some of the games. I love games...what can I say.
Eugenia wrote: "Sharon wrote: "I don't get Twitter lolThat is going to far"
LOL. Twitter seems more like a way to promote yourself or ideas. I have a Twitter account but I don't use it at all. I live a pretty..."
it isn't boring you just don't need to tell every continent what you doing lol
I have a younger cousin currently in college who tells ALL of her business on FB. She makes statements about her state of mind with her relationship ups & downs. She really needs to tone it down if she doesn't want someone pulling this mess out later with her career choice. She first started doing that years ago on MySpace while in middle school. My aunts and I had to go on there and make her take down some information. She had her photo and what school she attended. Some people give out way too much information that isn't safe at all.
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That isn't safe.
Some stuff people shouldn't do, no matter what.
That aside, there are some things that make me laugh and some things that annoy me.
1. The birthday invites
Do you guys on FB get these constantly? I don't understand why you'd wanna invite someone to your birthday party who you've never met anywhere or talked to? I get tons of invites from folks on my "friends" list who I wouldn't know if I saw them in person. I mean folks I never have spoken to before! The thing is, these folks seriously are inviting me places and yet, I don't know them. Don't get that.
2. The fan thing.
A lot of people I know hate this feature most of all. I don't get the "will you be a fan of" No. I'm sorry but this is terrible promotion. Just because you send someone a "fan" invite doesn't mean they are gonna pay you any attention. I get these a lot and there hasn't been ONE person who has sent me one that interested me enough to even go to their page. Don't ask me to be your fan, show me why I should be. If I read your book and like it. I'm your fan. If I listen to your music or see your indie film and think you're talented, I'm a fan. But I am not going to be the fan of someone who I don't even know because they ask me. Don't get it.
3. Spam.
The first thing FB followers claim about FB is there is a lack of spam? Really? In what lifetime because my inbox is full of it. It's not much better than My Space these days.
4. But the funny thing to me about FB is that you rarely talk to people you don't already know!
So what's the point? LOL! Most people talk to people they are related to or people who are their friends, but how often does someone actually talk to folks they don't know? I mean, really talk not just those little comments under someone's "What I'm Doing Now" section. I don't know, maybe some folks do but from my experience, I'm talking to people I already know when I'm on there and I figure, I can talk to them anywhere. Don't get it.
FB has it's good points I guess but I don't stay on it long enough. I get bored with stuff like that. Like I said, I'd rather talk to folks with the same interests as me. I don't just wanna talk about general things with just anyone.
Just some things that make me go, "Huh". I think FB's mission was different in the beginning but now it seems like an extension of Twitter, LOL!
Maybe it's just my personality. I've never been someone who stayed on the phone all day either so I don't see myself tweeting or facebooking about every little thing I do. Don't get it. Some of the groups are okay but, just some things on FB that make me laugh and wonder, "Huh?" LOL!
Best Wishes!
http://www.stacy-deanne.net