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message 1: by Arch , Mod (new)

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Okay, this will be the thread to discuss "The Weight" issue.




message 2: by Arch , Mod (new)

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You are welcome Eugenia.

I'll be back to talk to anyone about weight, after I eat. I'm hungry.


message 3: by Arch , Mod (new)

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Okay, I'm back. I have received a new workout DVD and I had to check it out, while eating my dinner. Yes, I'm guilty of watching things about health and eating at the same time. At least, I'm exercising my mouth.

Sometimes, I'll watch my new exercise DVD or VHS, before tackling it.





message 4: by Arch , Mod (last edited Dec 28, 2009 05:45PM) (new)

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I think a lot of people allow the media to enter into their head and that's why they worry about their weight or they worry about other people's weight.

I don't worry about the weight on the scale. I worry about the body fat percentage and the inches. But, mostly the body fat, because it's the fat on a person's body that can harm them.

I've inherited my mother's hips. I have birth hips.

I don't boast on my shape, because it's just a shape, but I have a nice shape. I haven't created it. I've born with it. It grew with me.

Right now, I'm carrying a little extra body fat. I'm working at getting rid of it slowly. I don't believe in dieting. I believe in tackling my extra weight, one day at a time, because it hasn't attached itself to me in one day.

I'm carrying a huge percentage of my extra weight below my waist, in my thighs and butt. I've always had a big butt and I am proud of that. Now the chest area, I can't say the same thing.

"My healthy" is right for me. I'm looking in my mirror. The mirror that I will be carrying around.

My doctor thinks that 101 pounds is good for me, but that's not my healthy.

Doctors can be wrong. In 2000, I was feeling bad and I've gone to the hospital to find out what was wrong with me. The doctor told me nothing was wrong with me. The next day, I was lead to go back to the hospital and a different doctor told me that I had the flu. Thank goodness that I knew that my body was sick and that the previous doctor didn't know what he was talking about.


message 5: by Arch , Mod (last edited Dec 28, 2009 05:54PM) (new)

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Bacon tastes good. Poor pig, but good bacon.


message 6: by Arch , Mod (last edited Dec 28, 2009 06:05PM) (new)

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Diabetics can have sugar free candy, etc..


message 7: by Arch , Mod (new)

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Sweets are good and tempting.


message 8: by Arch , Mod (new)

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Food is in the line of weight.

I know about diabetes. I guess sugar free can work. I've ate some sugar free hersey mini bars before and they didn't taste bad. Too bad they didn't have any almonds in them.

I like crystal light candies. Do you eat those or should I ask, have you tried those?

I couldn't see myself not having a little piece of chocolate every once in a while.

I'm a chocoholic, but I try to stay away from the candy. I do like to treat myself every once in a while.

Sweets are tasty, but they also can put on the pounds.


message 9: by Arch , Mod (new)

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The body knows when to carve sugar and when to carve salt.

As a diabetic Eugenia, you can have the real candy, ice cream, etc. in moderator. Pick a day that you will have a nice portion size of sugar for a snack or as a carb with a meal.

Since you like ice cream, you can buy yourself those ice cream in those little cups. I know that one cup will just be a teaser, but at least you had a little ice cream. You can even drop a little carmel syrup on top. That would count as two carbs, right?




message 10: by Arch , Mod (new)

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I know you take care of yourself Eugenia, but I am going to say it regardless, take care of yourself. Eat when you are suppose to eat. Don't be afraid to give yourself a little sweets. Exercise, get enough sleep and make sure you take your medicine.




message 11: by Arch , Mod (new)

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Well, I am going to be your "Eugenia, have you taken your medicine today" person. So, make it your business to check the group every day, even when you are away. Use someone's computer.

I have a lady at work, who takes medicine.I like to remind her to take her medicine.


message 12: by Arch , Mod (new)

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I believe that diabetes affect a person's weight.


message 13: by Chaeya (last edited Dec 29, 2009 12:22PM) (new)

Chaeya | 454 comments I think the weight thing comes from the media, but they got extreme with it. Having grown up in the black community, no one ever cared about weight. There were big girls, but only a few who were really overweight. You didn't get a lot of teasing because of weight like you did in the white community. Everybody pretty much could get a boyfriend, even the ugly people. It was only when I entered the working world and started hanging with more whites did I find everyone dieting and concerned about their weight. Men complaining this person was fat and I'd look at them and go, that ain't fat. If you look at music, no one really cares how big a singer is. They'll talk about her, but they still want to hear her sing. Chaka Kahn may be heavier than she was in the 70s, but people will knock each other over to go here her sing. You didn't ever hear the media complaining about a black singer's weight. But let a white singer gain weight or actress, they're having a cow. I remember when Ann Wilson of Heart gained a lot of weight, she got tons of crap for it and she suffered as a result. She talked about one video where the director pretty much only shot her face and hid her.

Even after all that though, it did nothing to deter people from gaining weight. So now that everyone's on this health kick from no smoking to eating natural, now they are attacking the weight issue. And it helps on some level, but not on others.

For instance, bad food is cheaper to be had. Like when the organic craze started (which I personally think is bunch of b.s.) you go to Whole Foods, you'd easily walk out with one bag of groceries for $80. Then you got the Food TV Network throwing butter and heavy creams in everything they make, so that isn't really inciting people to do any better either.

Yes, and I too, have suffered from the stomach pudge. Even when I was at my thinnest, I still had this pooch. Two C-sections didn't help either, so now it just looks like a deflated balloon. It sucks that the smaller I get, it looks worse. What was funny, when I was younger, I was so ashamed of it, but I never had problems getting guys. And I met this body builder. He was gorgeous and he was a body sculpting consultant for women. What was interesting, he never complained about my body or my weight. He was really sweet and a big teddy bear. That's when I stopped caring about how my body looked. It is what it is.

Good case in point, I remember when The Dark Knight came out and everyone was giving the actress that replaced Katie Holme's character, Rachel. They complained she was ugly, she was fat and so on and I really loved her as Rachel. You could give me her over Katie any day.


message 14: by Chaeya (new)

Chaeya | 454 comments That's right, Eugenia.


message 15: by Arch , Mod (new)

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I agree with you Eugenia, everyone should love themselves.

I wasn't placed in someone else's body. I was placed in the body that was asigned to me.



message 16: by Chaeya (new)

Chaeya | 454 comments One thing I find about a good man is if you believe in him and you take care of him, listen to his ideas and all, he will think you're the most beautiful woman in the world. I know some women who have good husbands and they don't have the perfect body or the perfect face, but their men love and respect them.

With a playa or old dog (as I call them), it doesn't matter how you look, they just aren't gonna do right even if they had Angelina Jolie as a wife. They're gonna cheat or complain about how you look and all because they have some other issues going on. With my ex husband, I could never do anything right, and I should have picked up on his vibe when he was complaining all the time about his ex wife. He just didn't respect me as a woman, so it didn't matter how I looked.

Just love yourself and everything else will follow.



message 17: by Chaeya (last edited Jan 05, 2010 11:33AM) (new)

Chaeya | 454 comments Okay, this site is just way too much. Beautifulpeople.com apparently dumped 5,000 of its members because they looked to have gained too much weight over the holidays. What exactly counts as too much weight? Then they blatantly use the term "fatties" and when I went to the website it asks if you want to join or if you're too "ugly" you can browse. When you try to browse, it says that its media coverage has been so great you have to come back later. Is a person's self esteem that warped to where they even want other members to vote them in? I say let them have it. It ain't even worth getting angry about.

http://www.cnn.com/2010/LIVING/person...

Chaeya


message 18: by Arch , Mod (new)

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In my opinion, people shouldn't let others determine what number they should carry or even label them as not being beautiful. That's those people's opinion.


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