Non-fiction, Psychology book with chapters on optimism, pessimism and a take on personal responsibility. Read around 2020.

[Petya]

It's odd because I don't read a ton of non fiction and yet I somehow forgot this one. I think it was an easy to read pop psychology book, but it could have been a tad more serious. Not clinical psychology for sure though. I think I read it 5ish or more years ago.
I had a vague idea it could be You're Not So Smart by David McRaney, but I recently listened to the audio book again and that wasn't it.

The most specific thing I remember is that I'm fairly sure it included links to studies and tests you could participate in and the one I remember most clearly was a prejudice test that assessed if you were in any way prejudiced against race, gender or any other possible reason to prejudge sb and the results were based on the speed of your answers and not on the actual answers.

Here's what else I remember - I think the book talked about priming and the ways different preconceptions or attitudes affected how we perceive information and how we deal with problems and at some point it went in details about the pros and cons of the pessimistic outlook (and how those people generally feel themselves more like realists or something like that) and the benefit of optimism and how basically all progress requires it, despite the downsides, and the middle ground.

I also remember that it made an interesting point about personal responsibility and the sort of freedom that comes with it. Some other psychology books I've read talk about being raised a certain way might make you feel like you have to manage you life and your emotions alone and other people's as well and just fail to ask for help etc. This book was interesting because it presented a different outlook on a similar situation, which was something along the lines of how it's freeing and emotionally beneficial to look at situations as "this is what *I* can do" and focus on that instead of stressing about the things other people aren't doing or something. I really wish I could phrase it better. My memory is very vague.

I really want to read some parts of it again, but I just can't find it :( I know this is quite vague and general, but maybe it would ring a bell for somebody.

Thanks in advance to anyone that tries to help!

PS It for sure isn't anything by Jordan Peterson. I quite dislike the guy and I would have remembered if it was him