What's the Name of That Book??? discussion
► Suggest books for me
>
Books for Introverts and people with social anxiety
date
newest »
newest »
message 1:
by
Heisenberg
(new)
May 06, 2018 01:59PM
I struggle with my people skills and need some books about making friends or changing personality to increase likeness by others (both genders)
reply
|
flag
This isn't a book but advice: it is ok to be an introvert and socially awkward. a lot of people are. I used to struggle with it. Now I embrace it and know it is just who I am and I have friends. The best advice I ever got...uncomfortable situations won't kill you. Also, most people feel awkward sometimes. Chances are when you feel awkward or anxious, nobody else can tell. And last but not least, humans are fairly self-involved creatures. when you do feel scared or awkward or awful...just realize others aren't sitting around in their spare time judging you. You are your own worst critic. Long live socially-awkward nerds!! Now, all that might not seem too helpful, so let me gather a list of my fav books for this stuff and share with you.
Thank you so much for that advice, really brought a smile on my face 😊I actually don’t have any friends and sometimes I try going out of my way to talk to someone but they seem disinterested, so I simply slip away, thought something might help with people skills.
Anyways I’m new here (literally installed the app yesterday), could you tell me how to upvote that comment of yours 🤭😬
Heisenberg wrote: "Thank you so much for that advice, really brought a smile on my face 😊I actually don’t have any friends and sometimes I try going out of my way to talk to someone but they seem disinterested, so I..."
Not sure if you can upvote, but it is the thought that counts! No prob!
I would second everything Mary said and add a suggestion: join a club. A few years back I joined a book club that is hosted by a local bookstore and it wouldn't be overstating things to say that it changed my life. It didn't happen overnight of course but some things I noticed right away were (1) people are generally nice, understanding and forgiving, and (2) everybody says something weird or awkward from time to time--but nobody really cares. Chances are by the time they go home that night they have forgotten about it and gotten on with their own lives. I know it's not easy but making that first step really is the hardest part. I waffled on it myself for a very long time. But having just that once a month regular social interaction has helped me immensely. I'm no longer afraid to approach people and ask a simple question. You don't need to change your personality; you just need to acclimate yourself to social situations.
“Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World that Can’t Stop Talking” by Susan CainBecause you won’t change your personality. And that’s ok. I felt better when I took a few personality tests and realized there are other people who are like me. I’m not abnormal....there’s a whole Myers-Briggs classification for me.
“How to Win Friends and Influence People” by Dale Carnegie.
“The Fine Art of Small Talk” by Debra Fine
Because you can learn how to do chit-chat better and how to talk to people better.
Like someone else mentioned, I joined a book club. I also volunteer and tried to, consciously, find volunteer areas that aren’t just me doing something by myself. But, they are very task focused, instead of being on a committee.
Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can't Stop TalkingHow to Win Friends and Influence People
The Fine Art of Small Talk: How to Start a Conversation, Keep It Going, Build Networking Skills--and Leave a Positive Impression! for Ebookworm2016's suggestions.
I'm reading Quiet by Susan Cain at the moment, and I think it has some good stuff but feels a bit too much like a self-help book aimed at rich yuppies who're worried that being an introvert will mean they have to content themselves with being a millionaire instead of a billionaire, or becoming partner in a top law firm at 45 instead of 35, rather than at people for whom introversion is actually debilitating.The Nix is a novel which features good portrayals of social anxiety/awkwardness that don't just make it "cute" or "adorkable".
Eleanor Oliphant Is Completely Fine is a really interesting book.
Eliza and her monstersIt’s really good and it’s about online stuff too which is great!
if you have a hard time making friends face to face try online friendships. I also have anexity and prefer online friendships they count toofor a book try
on edge a journey through anxiety-by andrea peterson
What's the Name of That Book???
Books mentioned in this topic
You Will Find Your People: How to Make Meaningful Friendships as an Adult (other topics)Eleanor Oliphant Is Completely Fine (other topics)
Eliza and Her Monsters (other topics)
How to Be Happy (other topics)
The Color Master: Stories (other topics)
More...
