Mental Load Quotes

“Instead of losing ourselves in a mental load of constant pleasing, let us take the time to appreciate ourselves and cultivate our values. Nurturing our core values allows us to lead authentic lives and build resilience, confidence, and a sense of self. ("Axelle Red" )”
― Erik Pevernagie

“Men are not socialized to feel guilty for having freedom or for not being there for other people.”
― Darcy Lockman, All the Rage: Mothers, Fathers, and the Myth of Equal Partnership

“You’re the person who apologizes for apologizing. Your emails start with “Just wondering if maybe...” and end with “Sorry for bothering you!” Your drafts have drafts, and your backup plans have backup plans. Perfection and hesitation are your second and third names.”
― Tempest Jemison, How to Break Free from Imposter Syndrome: A Hilarious Journey from Self-Doubt to Self-Love: A Quick, No-BS Guide to Stop Overthinking, Overcome ... Your Life With Fun Exercises and Extra Giggle

“Social psychologists have their own name for the mental load. They call it mnemonic work. Studies have established that couples intuitively, rather than consciously and explicitly, divide the work of planning and remembering. And just as intuitively, it mostly falls on wives.”
― Darcy Lockman

“From where we sat, this man appeared to be enjoying a luxury all of the women we know couldn't imagine: the freedom to focus on one task at a time.”
― Eve Rodsky, Fair Play: A Game-Changing Solution for When You Have Too Much to Do

“A reminder, in itself, takes tremendous mental effort by you. It requires knowing what needs to be done, remembering what needs to be done, and reminding someone to get it done, whereas the person being reminded gets off easy. He doesn't have to remember a thing, nor does he worry about forgetting. And if you think about it, reminding and praising is the daily work of parenting children, not partnering with husbands.”
― Eve Rodsky, Fair Play: A Game-Changing Solution for When You Have Too Much to Do

“I'm not your wife. I am your maid, your cook, someone you sleep with when you feel like it. I've been doing all the giving, everyone else is doing all the taking, including your sorry brothers and Monique's trifling ass. I have nothing else to give.”
― Naleighna Kai, Sugar Ain't So Sweet

“Vigilas el fuego porque si no lo haces estás atrapada, muerta de frío, sola, y no te queda otra que abrigarte, ser práctica, aceptar que esto es lo que hay, acostumbrarte y ser comprensiva y sensata y estar de acuerdo y verlo desde otro punto de vista y verlo desde todos los puntos de vista posibles menos el tuyo propio.”
― Rachel Yoder, Nightbitch

“Het gevoel dat je enkel bestaat in functie van anderen, dat je manager bent van een huishouden zonder een managersloon of erkenning … dat dooft je verlangen.”
― Cindy Druyts, Kut genoeg om een boek over te schrijven