Monica > Monica's Quotes

“A lot of people lacked that gift: knowing when to fuck off.”
― Gillian Flynn, Gone Girl

“Tell her that kindness matters. Praise her when she is kind to other people. But teach her that kindness must never be taken for granted. Tell her that she, too, deserves the kindness of others. Teach her to stand up for what is hers. If another child takes her toy without her permission, ask her to take it back, because her consent is important. Tell er that if anything ever makes her uncomfortable, to speak up, to say it, to shout.”
― Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie, Dear Ijeawele, or A Feminist Manifesto in Fifteen Suggestions

“Show her that she does not need to be liked by everyone. Tell her that if someone does not like her, there will be someone else who will. Teach her that she not merely an object to be liked or disliked, she is also a subject who can like and dislike.”
― Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie, Dear Ijeawele, or A Feminist Manifesto in Fifteen Suggestions

“It was not the shape of my body, as it turned out, but my insecurities about that shape that had kept me single.”
― Josh Sundquist, We Should Hang Out Sometime: Embarrassingly, a True Story

“In fact I need you to know it was all true. The friendly guy who helps you move and assists senior citizens in the pool is the same guy who assaulted me. One person can be capable of both. Society often fails to wrap its head around the fact that these truths often coexist, they are not mutually exclusive. Bad qualities can hide inside a good person. That's the terrifying part.”
― Chanel Miller, Know My Name

“When a woman is assaulted, one of the first questions people ask is, Did you say no? This question assumes that the answer was always yes, and that it is her job to revoke the agreement. To defuse the bomb she was given. But why are they allowed to touch us until we physically fight them off? Why is the door open until we have to slam it shut?”
― Chanel Miller, Know My Name: A Memoir

“My advice is, if he’s worried about his reputation, don’t rape anyone.”
― Chanel Miller, Know My Name: A Memoir

“But it bothered me that having a boyfriend and being assaulted should be related, as if I, alone, was not enough...It should have been enough to say, I did not want a stranger touching my body.”
― Chanel Miller, Know My Name

“No matter how little a man has he will find that he will always settle for less.”
― Charles Bukowski, The Most Beautiful Woman in Town & Other Stories

“The twisted inversion that many children of immigrants know is that, at some point, your parents become your children, and your own personal American dream becomes making sure they age and die with dignity in a country that has never wanted them.”
― Karla Cornejo Villavicencio, The Undocumented Americans

“I wonder if humans are the only living creatures that ever feel hollow inside.”
― Colleen Hoover, Regretting You

“You’re a sacrificer. I don’t even know if that’s a real word, but that’s what you are. You do things you don’t want to do to make life better for the people around you. Like being the designated driver. That doesn’t make you boring. It makes you a hero.”
― Colleen Hoover, Regretting You

“I think it’s time I figure out who I was meant to become before I started living my life for everyone else.”
― Colleen Hoover, Regretting You

“I’m not brave all the time. No one is. We’ve all been disappointed; we’ve all had our hearts broken, and we’re all just doing our best. Make sure you have people who love you, the real you, not the Instagram you. If you can’t be brave, pretend to be brave, and if you can’t do that yet, know that you aren’t alone. Everyone you see is struggling. Nobody has it all figured out.”
― Jennifer Weiner, Big Summer

“You can look up keening in the dictionary, but you don’t know what it means until you hear somebody having their heart ripped out.”
― Bryn Greenwood, All the Ugly and Wonderful Things

“I could have told him there was no sense in rushing toward being dead. It would find you soon enough, and before it did there were pleasures to make your heart hurt less.”
― Bryn Greenwood, All the Ugly and Wonderful Things

“We lose ourselves,” she repeated, forming each word with care, “but we find our way back.” Wasn’t that the story of her life? Wasn’t that the story of Bethie’s? You make the wrong choices, you make mistakes, you disappear for a decade, you marry the wrong man. You get hurt. You lose sight of who you are, or of who you want to be, and then you remember, and if you’re lucky you have sisters or friends who remind you when you forget your best intentions. You come back to yourself, again and again. You try, and fail, and try again, and fail again.”
― Jennifer Weiner, Mrs. Everything

“If you start thinking that only your biggest and shiniest moments count, you're setting yourself up to feel like a failure most of the time.”
― Chris Hadfield, An Astronaut's Guide to Life on Earth

“When you were swimming in the lake of life,
You thrashed and kicked up your head,
Your arms slapped the surface waves and water foam.
But there’s a calm and glassy stillness In the quiet of your death,
And I can see far down
To the depths of you
That I never knew to love.”
― Misha Collins, Some Things I Still Can't Tell You: Poems

“Reading your note, at our table, in my voice,
I heard you were ready to accept my love,
Which, of course, changes everything.”
― Misha Collins, Some Things I Still Can't Tell You: Poems

“Lavi said that you should just suck his cock,” she laughed. “That will tell him everything he needs to know and make him worship the ground you walk on. Like I said, males are simple like that.”
― Zoey Draven, Captive of the Horde King

“I'm learning to give myself permission to be happy. Guilt was a large part of my life. It fueled a lot of my decisions. But I've paid my dues, I did what my mother asked of me. Now I just want to be free to make the choices I want to make without fear.”
― Zoey Draven, Captive of the Horde King

“it was like drinking the feeling of being peaceful. Being peaceful in your mind. Well, not if you have too much, then it’s something else.”
― Travis Baldree, Legends & Lattes

“When you traveled as much as I have, seen and done things that I’ve done, you learn that under the skin we’re all meat. It just comes in different flavors.”
― Wile E. Young, The Magpie Coffin