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  • #1
    Steve Maraboli
    “Get Off The Scale!

    You are beautiful. Your beauty, just like your capacity for life, happiness, and success, is immeasurable. Day after day, countless people across the globe get on a scale in search of validation of beauty and social acceptance.

    Get off the scale! I have yet to see a scale that can tell you how enchanting your eyes are. I have yet to see a scale that can show you how wonderful your hair looks when the sun shines its glorious rays on it. I have yet to see a scale that can thank you for your compassion, sense of humor, and contagious smile. Get off the scale because I have yet to see one that can admire you for your perseverance when challenged in life.

    It’s true, the scale can only give you a numerical reflection of your relationship with gravity. That’s it. It cannot measure beauty, talent, purpose, life force, possibility, strength, or love. Don’t give the scale more power than it has earned. Take note of the number, then get off the scale and live your life. You are beautiful!”
    Steve Maraboli, Life, the Truth, and Being Free

  • #2
    Zora Neale Hurston
    “I love myself when I am laughing. . . and then again when I am looking mean and impressive.”
    Zora Neale Hurston, I Love Myself When I Am Laughing And Then Again When I Am Looking Mean & Impressive

  • #3
    Jeanette Winterson
    “I've always tried to make a home for myself, but I have not felt at home in myself. I've worked hard at being the hero of my own life. But every time I checked the register of displaced persons, I was still on it. I didn't know how to belong. Longing? Yes. Belonging? No.”
    Jeanette Winterson, Why Be Happy When You Could Be Normal?

  • #4
    Jeanette Winterson
    “There are times when it will go so wrong that you will barely be alive, and times when you realise that being barely alive, on your own terms, is better than living a bloated half-life on someone else's terms.”
    Jeanette Winterson, Why Be Happy When You Could Be Normal?

  • #5
    Jeanette Winterson
    “Books, for me, are a home. Books don’t make a home--they are one, in the sense that just as you do with a door, you open a book, and you go inside. Inside there is a different kind of time and a different kind of space.”
    Jeanette Winterson, Why Be Happy When You Could Be Normal?

  • #6
    Jeanette Winterson
    “That is what literature offers—a language powerful enough to say how it is. It isn't a hiding place. It is a finding place.”
    Jeanette Winterson, Why Be Happy When You Could Be Normal?

  • #7
    Jeanette Winterson
    “I know now, after fifty years, that the finding/losing, forgetting/remembering, leaving/returning, never stops. The whole of life is about another chance, and while we are alive, till the very end, there is always another chance.”
    Jeanette Winterson, Why Be Happy When You Could Be Normal?

  • #8
    Jeanette Winterson
    “To tell someone not to be emotional is to tell them to be dead.”
    Jeanette Winterson, Why Be Happy When You Could Be Normal?

  • #9
    Jeanette Winterson
    “Yes, the stories are dangerous, she was right. A book is a magic carpet that flies you off elsewhere. A book is a door. You open it. You step through. Do you come back?”
    Jeanette Winterson, Why Be Happy When You Could Be Normal?

  • #10
    Jeanette Winterson
    “We bury things so deep we no longer remember there was anything to bury. Our bodies remember. Our neurotic states remember. But we don't.”
    Jeanette Winterson, Why Be Happy When You Could Be Normal?

  • #11
    Jeanette Winterson
    “Pursuing happiness, and I did, and still do, is not at all the same as being happy- which I think is fleeting, dependent on circumstances, and a bit bovine.

    If the sun is shining, stand in it- yes, yes, yes. Happy times are great, but happy times pass- they have to- because time passes.

    The pursuit of happiness is more elusive; it is lifelong, and it is not goal-centred.

    What you are pursuing is meaning- a meaningful life. There's the hap- the fate, the draw that is yours, and it isn't fixed, but changing the course of the stream, or dealing new cards, whatever metaphor you want to use- that's going to take a lot of energy. There are times when it will go so wrong that you will barely be alive, and times when you realize that being barely alive, on your own terms, is better than living a bloated half-life on someone else's terms.”
    Jeanette Winterson, Why Be Happy When You Could Be Normal?

  • #12
    Jeanette Winterson
    “I had lines inside me, a string of guiding lights. I had language. Fiction and poetry are doses, medicines. What they heal is the rupture reality makes on the imagination. I had been damaged, and a very important part of me had been destroyed - that was my reality, the facts of my life. But on the other side of the facts was who I could be, how I could feel. And as long as I had words for that, images for that, stories for that, then I wasn't lost.”
    Jeanette Winterson, Why Be Happy When You Could Be Normal?

  • #13
    Jeanette Winterson
    “Growing up is difficult. Strangely, even when we have stopped growing physically, we seem to have to keep on growing emotionally, which involves both expansion and shrinkage, as some parts of us develop and others must be allowed to disappear...Rigidity never works; we end up being the wrong size for our world.”
    Jeanette Winterson, Why Be Happy When You Could Be Normal?

  • #14
    Jeanette Winterson
    “I have noticed that doing the sensible thing is only a good idea when the decision is quite small. For the life-changing things you must risk it.
    And here is the shock- when you risk it, when you do the right thing, when you arrive at the borders of common sense and cross into unknown territory, leaving behind you all the familiar smells and lights; then you do not experience great joy and huge energy.
    You are unhappy. Things get worse.
    It is a time of mourning. Loss. Fear. We battle ourselves through with questions. And then we feel shot and wounded.
    And then all the cowards come out and say, 'See I told you so.' In fact, they have told you nothing.”
    Jeanette Winterson, Why Be Happy When You Could Be Normal?

  • #15
    Jeanette Winterson
    “Living with life is very hard. Mostly we do our best to stifle life--to be tame or to be wanton. To be tranquillised or raging. Extremes have the same effect; they insulate us from the intensity of life.

    And extremes--whether of dullness or fury--successfully prevent feeling. I know our feelings can be so unbearable that we employ ingenious strategies--unconscious strategies--to keep those feelings away. We do a feelings-swap, where we avoid feeling sad or lonely or afraid or inadequate, and feel angry instead. It can work the other way, too--sometimes you do need to feel angry, not inadequate; sometimes you do need to feel love and acceptance, and not the tragic drama of your life.

    It takes courage to feel the feeling--and not trade it on the feelings-exchange, or even transfer it altogether to another person. You know how in couples one person is always doing all the weeping or the raging while the other one seems so calm and reasonable?

    I understood that feelings were difficult for me although I was overwhelmed by them.”
    Jeanette Winterson, Why Be Happy When You Could Be Normal?

  • #16
    Jeanette Winterson
    “I believe in fiction and the power of stories because that way we speak in tongues. We are not silenced. All of us, when in deep trauma, find we hesitate, we stammer; there are long pauses in our speech. The thing is stuck. We get our language back through the language of others. We can turn to the poem. We can open the book. Somebody has been there for us and deep-dived the words.”
    Jeanette Winterson, Why Be Happy When You Could Be Normal?

  • #17
    Jeanette Winterson
    “The more I read, the more I felt connected across time to other lives and deeper sympathies. I felt less isolated. I wasn’t floating on my little raft in the present; there were bridges that led over to solid ground. Yes, the past is another country, but one that we can visit, and once there we can bring back the things we need.

    Literature is common ground. It is ground not managed wholly by commercial interests, nor can it be strip-mined like popular culture—exploit the new thing then move on.

    There’s a lot of talk about the tame world versus the wild world. It is not only a wild nature that we need as human beings; it is the untamed open space of our imaginations.

    Reading is where the wild things are.”
    Jeanette Winterson, Why Be Happy When You Could Be Normal?

  • #18
    Jeanette Winterson
    “Where you are born--what you are born into, the place, the history of the place, how that history mates with your own-- stamps who you are, whatever the pundits of globalisation have to say.”
    Jeanette Winterson, Why Be Happy When You Could Be Normal?

  • #19
    Jeanette Winterson
    “Unconditional love is what a child should expect from a parent even though it rarely works out that way.”
    Jeanette Winterson, Why Be Happy When You Could Be Normal?

  • #20
    Jeanette Winterson
    “I needed words because unhappy families are conspiracies of silence. The one who breaks the silence is never forgiven. He or she has to learn to forgive him or herself.”
    Jeanette Winterson, Why Be Happy When You Could Be Normal?

  • #21
    Jeanette Winterson
    “Memory loss is one way of coping with damage.”
    Jeanette Winterson, Why Be Happy When You Could Be Normal?

  • #22
    Jeanette Winterson
    “In therapy, the therapist acts as a container for what we daren't let out, because it is so scary, or what lets itself out every so often, and lays waste to our lives.”
    Jeanette Winterson, Why Be Happy When You Could Be Normal?

  • #24
    “grieve. so that you can be free to feel something else.”
    Nayyirah Waheed, nejma

  • #25
    “decolonization requires acknowledging. that your needs and desires should never come at the expense of another’s life energy. it is being honest that you have been spoiled by a machine that is not feeding you freedom but feeding you the milk of pain. – the release”
    Nayyirah Waheed, salt.

  • #26
    “Just because someone desires you, it does not mean they value you.

    Read it over.

    Again

    And let those words resonate in your mind.”
    Nayyirah Waheed

  • #27
    Warsan Shire
    “give your daughters difficult names. give your daughters names that command the full use of tongue. my name makes you want to tell me the truth. my name doesn’t allow me to trust anyone that cannot pronounce it right.”
    Warsan Shire

  • #28
    Warsan Shire
    “how far have you walked for men who’ve never held your feet in their laps?
    how often have you bartered with bone, only to sell yourself short?
    why do you find the unavailable so alluring?
    where did it begin? what went wrong? and who made you feel so worthless?
    if they wanted you, wouldn’t they have chosen you?
    all this time, you were begging for love silently, thinking they couldn’t hear you, but they smelt it on you, you must have known that they could taste the desperate on your skin?
    and what about the others that would do anything for you, why did you make them love you until you could not stand it?
    how are you both of these women, both flighty and needful?
    where did you learn this, to want what does not want you?
    where did you learn this, to leave those that want to stay?”
    Warsan Shire

  • #29
    Warsan Shire
    “later that night
    i held an atlas in my lap
    ran my fingers across the whole world
    and whispered
    where does it hurt?

    it answered
    everywhere
    everywhere
    everywhere.”
    Warsan Shire

  • #30
    Warsan Shire
    “I’m not sad, but the boys who are looking for sad girls always find me. I’m not a girl anymore and I’m not sad anymore. You want me to be a tragic backdrop so that you can appear to be illuminated, so that people can say ‘Wow, isn't he so terribly brave to love a girl who is so obviously sad?’ You think I’ll be the dark sky so you can be the star? I’ll swallow you whole.”
    Warsan Shire

  • #31
    Warsan Shire
    “You tried to change didn’t you?
    closed your mouth more
    tried to be softer
    prettier
    less volatile, less awake
    but even when sleeping you could feel
    him travelling away from you in his dreams
    so what did you want to do love
    split his head open?
    you can’t make homes out of human beings
    someone should have already told you that
    and if he wants to leave
    then let him leave
    you are terrifying
    and strange and beautiful
    something not everyone knows how to love.”
    Warsan Shire



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