“What is the specific content of the abundance of the heart in this circumstance? What was the temptation? What was his response to that temptation? What was he trying to accomplish? If you can understand and help your child understand these things, you will be on your way to understanding the “why” of what has transpired. What you must do is peel away the behavior and discern the inner world of your child’s motivation in this situation. While you can never understand the issues of the heart flawlessly, it is a pursuit worthy of effort.”