Shepherding a Child's Heart Quotes

“The finest art of communication is not learning how to express your thoughts. It is learning how to draw out the thoughts of another.”
― Tedd Tripp, Shepherding a Child's Heart

“All behavior is linked to attitudes of the heart. Therefore, discipline must address attitudes of the heart.”
― Tedd Tripp, Shepherding a Child's Heart

“Some people think listening is what you do between opportunities to say something. During listening times they don’t listen at all. They are deciding what to say. Don’t be such a parent. The Proverbs remind you that the fool does not delight in understanding, but in airing his own opinion (Proverbs 18:2).”
― Tedd Tripp, Shepherding a Child's Heart

“Recognizing that God has called you to function as his agent defines your task as a parent. Our culture has reduced parenting to providing care. Parents often see the task in these narrow terms. The child must have food, clothes, a bed, and some quality time.

In sharp contrast to such a weak view, God has called you to a more profound task than being only a care-provider. You shepherd your child in God's behalf. The task God has given you is not one that can be conveniently scheduled. It is a pervasive task. Training and shepherding are going on whenever you are with your children. Whether waking, walking, talking or resting, you must be involved in helping your child to understand life, himself, and his needs from a biblical perspective (Deuteronomy 6:6-7).”
― Tedd Tripp, Shepherding a Child's Heart

“The most powerful way to keep your children from being attracted by the offers of camaraderie from the wicked is to make home an attractive place to be.”
― Tedd Tripp, Shepherding a Child's Heart

“Proverbs 13:20 says, “He who walks with the wise becomes wise.” As a wise parent your objective is not simply to discuss, but to demonstrate the freshness and vitality of life lived in integrity toward God and your family.”
― Tedd Tripp, Shepherding a Child's Heart

“Two mistakes are made in interacting with the shaping influences of life. The first is seeing shaping influences deterministically. It is the error of assuming that the child is a helpless victim of the circumstances in which he was raised. The second mistake is denial. It is the mistake of saying the child is unaffected by his early childhood experience. Passages such as Proverbs 29:21 illustrate the importance of childhood experience. Here we see that the servant pampered from youth is affected in a manner that brings grief in the end. Neither denial nor determinism is correct. You need to understand these shaping influences biblically. Such understanding will aid you in your task as parents.”
― Tedd Tripp, Shepherding a Child's Heart

“Proverbs 18:13 reminds us that “He who answers before listening—that is his folly and his shame.”
― Tedd Tripp, Shepherding a Child's Heart

“You should encourage your children to see the needs of those around them.”
― Tedd Tripp, Shepherding a Child's Heart

“The purpose for your authority in the lives of your children is not to hold them under your power, but to empower them to be self-controlled people living freely under the authority of God.”
― Tedd Tripp, Shepherding a Child's Heart

“We give them material things and take delight in their delight in possessions. Then we hope that somewhere down the line they will see that a life worth living is found only in knowing and serving God.”
― Tedd Tripp, Shepherding a Child's Heart

“Moms and dads tell the children what to do. Kids tell their parents their wishes and dreams.”
― Tedd Tripp, Shepherding a Child's Heart

“The parent can change his mind in the context of respectful appeal, but not in the presence of blatant rebellion.”
― Tedd Tripp, Shepherding a Child's Heart

“I have spoken to many parents who feared they were producing little hypocrites who were proud and self-righteous. Hypocrisy and self-righteousness is the result of giving children a keepable law and telling them to be good. To the extent they are successful, they become like the Pharisees....The genius of Phariseeism was that it reduced the law to a keepable standard of externals that any self-disciplined person could do. In their pride and self-righteousness, they rejected Christ.”
― Tedd Tripp, Shepherding a Child's Heart

“When we allow our children to become independent decision makers we give them a false idea of liberty and a mistaken notion about freedom. ”
― Tedd Tripp, Shepherding a Child's Heart

“Proverbs 12:15–16 says: “The way of a fool seems right to him, but a wise man listens to advice. A fool shows his annoyance at once, but a prudent man overlooks an insult.”
― Tedd Tripp, Shepherding a Child's Heart

“You need to understand your child in relationship to the two broad sets of issues that affect him: 1) The child and his relationship to the shaping influences of life. 2) The child and his relationship to God.”
― Tedd Tripp, Shepherding a Child's Heart

“No wonder we lose our kids. We lose them because we fail to think clearly about man’s chief end. The chief end of man is to glorify God and enjoy him forever; therefore, your objective in every context must be to set a biblical worldview before your children. From their earliest days, they must be taught that they are creatures made in the image of God—made for God. They must learn that they will only “find themselves” as they find him. Your child must grow to see that real living is experienced when he stands before God and says, “Whom have I in heaven but you? And earth has nothing I desire besides you” (Psalm 73:25). If this is what you want for your children, then you must ensure that the content of everyday life fits this objective.”
― Tedd Tripp, Shepherding a Child's Heart

“你最终要把他们交给神，因为你信靠神，神曾经如此恩待你。”
― Tedd Tripp, Shepherding a Child's Heart

“No debes avergonzarte de ser una autoridad para tus hijos. Ejercitas la autoridad como un agente de Dios y, por tanto, no debes dirigir a tus hijos según su agenda o para su conveniencia, sino que debes dirigirlos en nombre de Dios y para el bien de ellos.”
― Tedd Tripp, Cómo Pastorear el Corazón de tu Hijo

“el cambio de corazón comienza con la convicción de pecado; y la convicción del pecado viene a través de la conciencia.”
― Tedd Tripp, Cómo Pastorear el Corazón de tu Hijo

“You want to provide the best possible shaping influences for your children. You want the structure of your home to furnish the stability and security that they need. You want the quality of relationships in your home to reflect the grace of God and the mercy for failing sinners that God’s character demonstrates. You want the punishments meted out to be appropriate and to reflect a holy God’s view of sin. You want the values of your home to be scripturally informed. You want to control the flow of events so that your home is not chaotic, but well-structured. You want to provide a healthy, constructive atmosphere for your child.”
― Tedd Tripp, Shepherding a Child's Heart

“Pressures of the teen years pull children away from home. This is the time when they develop camaraderie with those who “understand them.” They are looking for relationships in which someone knows, understands, and loves them. Your children should not have to leave home for that. You can provide family relationships in which your children are understood and embraced. The attraction the “wrong crowd” holds is not a license for being bad. The attraction of the “wrong crowd” is camaraderie. Children long to be known, understood, discipled and loved.”
― Tedd Tripp, Shepherding a Child's Heart

“Pressures of the teen years pull children away from home. This is the time when they develop camaraderie with those who “understand them.” They are looking for relationships in which someone knows, understands, and loves them. Your children should not have to leave home for that. You can provide family relationships in which your children are understood and embraced.”
― Tedd Tripp, Shepherding a Child's Heart

“A wise parent talks when the kids are in the mood. Every so often they will ask a question, make a comment, reveal some little aspect of their heart. In those times, when their conscience is stirred, you need to talk. This may require dropping everything else to seize a critical moment.”
― Tedd Tripp, Shepherding a Child's Heart

“This issue—submission to authority—is foundational for the entire parent-child relationship. It is possible to build this foundation after the house has been started. It is, however, more difficult and more expensive. If your children are young, do it right from the start. Don’t let them develop habits of disobedience. Be sure that they learn to obey without challenge, without excuse, without delay.”
― Tedd Tripp, Shepherding a Child's Heart

“Qual é a estrutura de sua família? Como”
― Tedd Tripp, Pastoreando o Coração da Criança

“los niños, por lo general, no se rebelan contra la autoridad que es verdaderamente bondadosa y abnegada.”
― Tedd Tripp, Cómo Pastorear el Corazón de tu Hijo

“La mayoría de los libros acerca de la crianza dan consejos, ya sea sobre cómo formar y restringir la conducta de los niños o cómo hacerles sentir bien con quienes son. El control o el éxito personal de los hijos son considerados los objetivos de la crianza. El primero hace los deseos de los padres la prioridad; el segundo pone los deseos infantiles como supremos.”
― Tedd Tripp, Cómo Pastorear el Corazón de tu Hijo

“It is easy for a parent to say, "I am right and I am angry, therefore my anger is righteous anger." It may be that we are just angry because we are not getting what we want.”
― Tedd Tripp, Shepherding a Child's Heart