“here are the core values and guidelines of healthy communication: Our first goal in a conversation is to understand one another. My thoughts, feelings, and needs are valuable and important, and so are yours. I do not participate in disrespectful conversations. When my thoughts, feelings, and needs are devalued in a conversation, I will stop the conversation and set a
clear boundary. Until respect is restored, I will not participate. We need to communicate our true feelings and needs to establish trust and intimacy. It’s my job to tell you what is going on inside me, and your job to tell me what’s going on inside you. We do not have powers of telepathy or the right to assume we know one another’s motives, thoughts, feelings, or needs.”