“The most precious thing I have to tell you about is the sadness. You don’t have to talk about pain, but you have to live out of your pain. Speak out of your depths. Speak out of who you truly are. And when somebody says, “How are you?” don’t say, “I’m fine.” Maybe just say, “Well, I’m not so good. How are you?” Then let the conversation move. Talk not about it, but talk out of it. And, I mean, literally talk in this place.”