“They will view the child as a way to meet their own feelings and needs. The caregiver is unable to view the child as a separate self.  As a result, there is a violation of the child’s boundaries. The child’s thoughts and feelings are disrespected. As a result, the child is not given a chance to develop a healthy sense of self. Instead, the child learns they must meet the caregiver’s needs to gain love and approval. Furthermore, they learn to focus on the caregiver’s expectations and responses. The result is that the child develops a sense of shame and codependency. As the child develops, they may lose touch with their thoughts, feelings, and needs.”