Anxious Attachment Recovery: Go From Being Clingy to Confident & Secure In Your Relationships

by Linda Hill

Moths that get too close to the light burn their wings. Men and women who become too attached to their partners tear their relationships apart. Your relationship doesn't have to end in heartache like so many others.Anxious attachment plagues many relationships, and whether we know it or not, it's often the root of many couple's problems. You'll notice that most happy, long-lasting relationships do not cause such traits of neurotic anxious attachment. Instead, they embody trust, boundaries, and a healthy distance that actually pours gasoline on the fire of attraction.

This book, offered in both audio and physical format, will teach you how to foster such a relationship, exploring topics such

✓ How to recover from being anxiously attached and achieve a secure attachment style.

✓ The blueprint to reach intimacy with your partner without being anxiously attached.

✓ How to cope with anxious attachments in your current relationship or dating life.

✓ Learn different types of attachment styles, and how they affect your relationship.

✓ Guided meditations and affirmations to help you break free from anxious attachments.

✓ And much, much more...


With this guide, you'll learn how to salvage relationships on the edge, and how to form new relationships that are built to last. Relationships that aren't constantly a source of fear, anxiety, and stress. Relationships that you feel secure in, and within which love and attraction grows boundlessly.

Scroll up and click buy now if you are ready to destroy anxious attachments and unlock the real secret to healthy relationships today.

Genres: Self Help, Nonfiction, Psychology

189 pages, Kindle Edition

Published December 8, 2022

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Reviews

[Siena Mirabella · Rating 3 out of 5]

If you know anything about attachment styles I wouldn’t recommend this. This felt like a super basic book with information that’s already pretty commonly known. It was concise and to the point the info was good if you know absolutely nothing about your attachment style.

[Alyssa Riege · Rating 4 out of 5]

“there can be no healing without self-awareness”

I read this because I have a few clients who have anxious attachments and I want to be able to help them as best as I can. This is so informative and such an easy read. It gives explanations that don’t require a degree in counseling to understand and provides great coping skills, meditations, and affirmations. It also made me realize I have an anxious attachment when it comes to friendships, but an avoidant attachment with relationships, so that’s something future Alyssa will have to deal with.

[Kelly · Rating 5 out of 5]

I thoroughly enjoyed this book. It reiterated a lot of the same information I’ve read in other books but it was short and to the point. I’d like to download the audiobook to listen to the guided meditations and affirmations.

[Carmen Montero · Rating 5 out of 5]

Good advice!

[Heather Ashley · Rating 3 out of 5]

Definitely insightful and well researched. Love the list of affirmations.

[Jamie Bee · Rating 4 out of 5]

Healing Anxious Attachment

This book started off as I like nonfiction to do, with the author relating a bit of her story with anxious attachment. However, that thread was soon dropped, and I wish the author continued to include more of herself throughout the book. The best contemporary nonfiction is born from the author's experience or expertise. However, this book could be genuinely helpful not only for the person with anxious attachment to help them better understand themselves and start to heal but also for the partner of someone with this challenging form of attachment. What a delightful thing for this book to address! After all, when one person in a couple grapples with an issue like this, the problem typically affects both partners. This book helps both individuals heal and learn to relate in new, healthier ways, bringing awareness and tools. The book briefly touches on things like love languages, inner child work, meditation, and affirmations to assist with healing. The author even includes a section of brief meditations and a longer section of affirmations. I wasn't wild about the affirmations because they didn't all necessarily seem to be about anxious attachment or healing from it. Some were far too general, and others were wildly specific in a way that may not be true for all with anxious attachment. For instance, a surprisingly high number of the affirmations were strongly Judeo-Christian. Perfectly fine if that is your religious bent, but not quite appropriate for those who consider themselves more spiritual than religious, agnostic, or atheistic. However, this book does include much food for thought and a few starting steps on the pathway for healing from anxious attachment for both the person with it and their partner.

I received a promo code for this audiobook, but that did not affect my review.

[Anna Crosland · Rating 3 out of 5]

Harsh truths with some valuable lessons

I would probably rate this as 3 and a half stars if I could. There was a lot I found interesting and confronting in the first half of the book. It allowed me to reflect on my relationship from an objective standpoint and be more critical of some of my behaviours. However I felt like some points were rushed over and more depth would have provided more insightful observation and conclusions. I would have liked to read more in detail about some of the research and social experiments as they seemed useful and integral to the book's argument from a sociological perspective. I liked the addition of the meditation section but I think this would be more easily practiced with the audiobook but I don't know if I want to pay for it separately. I liked the affirmation section too although I felt it was too long and repetitive at the end.

I will definitely read more on this topic as I want to learn more about anxious attachment and apply the lessons from it to my life

[Book Addict · Rating 5 out of 5]

Some of the content from this book is the same as in avoidant attachment recovery. The author uses a very clear writing style to guide the reader through an overview of where attachment styles came from, highlights research and provides explanations in clear simple words that doesn't patronise and then goes into more detail on how to identify and work on attachment styles in your own relationships. She culminates this easy read with ways in supporting the anxious attachment in their everyday life by suggesting ways of doing visualising, mindfulness and highlights that change is always possible. A great read.

I received a free copy of this book via Booksprout and am voluntarily leaving a review.

[Amanda Martin · Rating 3 out of 5]

I read this in audio form. I was terribly bothered by he narrator honestly, but that seems like a personal problem. The science and/or research of this book is accurate, which I do appreciate and think others will find helpful and I will recommend it as a read to others.
The chapter filled with an entire an onslaught of affirmations, which was titled Affirmations, was horrendously unnecessary. For anyone seeking out support, understanding, or increased knowledge who does not come from a therapy background and getting to a chapter that could have been incredibly helpful on how and why to increase affirmations, for it only to be an entire chapter of examples of affirmations.....
Otherwise this was nice easy listen.

[Erika · Rating 4 out of 5]

This book is a great introduction into the world of attachment styles. Even though I was already familiar with this topic, I found this book to be very informative and most importantly not extremely repetitive in the way some other self-help books can be. Being an anxiously attached person this book offered great guidance on how to navigate the many times overwhelming feelings that anxious attachment brings and much knowledge on how and why attachment styles are formed. Even though this book focuses most on the anxious attachment style, it also touches on the other attachment styles as well as love languages which I really appreciated as well. Furthermore, it gives good information on the avoidant attachment style and how it can interact with the anxious style. Overall, I really enjoyed reading this and can see myself reaching back for it in the future especially for the meditation and affirmations sections at the end.

[Veronica Stachurski · Rating 3 out of 5]

Distracting Editing Errors

I liked this book, and it is put together pretty well. There are some really good insights, and a small number of things I do not necessarily agree with.

I believe that a book like this should get you to think about things more, in a new or different way, etc, and this book does.

However, there are a number of typos and grammatical errors that I personally find very distracting when I read. If I could give half-stars in a review, it would be 3.5 for this book.

[Robyn Engel · Rating 3 out of 5]

Yet another self-help book that offers nothing new, research citations dating back nearly one hundred years, and is void of expertise. The author doesn't have a credential in social services or psychology. It reads like a student research paper that covers the basics on attachment styles, one that should not have been published in book form because it adds nothing to the world of literature or self-help.

[Jennifer Riad · Rating 4 out of 5]

Although I didn’t learn much new information from this book I found it helpful and it confirmed things I already knew and need to work on. I liked the sections on how to deal with “triggers” as I know what triggers me and know when I’m triggered but not always how to handle them. I will be using the affirmations and some of the meditations as needed. This book gave me a better overall understanding of anxious attachment styles as well as avoidant attachment.

[Chelsea Uhlry · Rating 5 out of 5]

Pretty helpful

I've only recently started to learn about attachment theory and the different styles (anxious attachment over here haha), this book was very insightful. It helped me me take a hard look at myself, think about what makes me feel this way, and gave some good coping mechanisms to work through things. It also gave me some insight on my avoidant partner and ways we can approach situations together. Highly recommend.

[Vincent · Rating 1 out of 5]

This book doesn’t offer anything new and honestly I found a lot of the language to be negative towards those with anxious attachments instead of being objective. Also the spacing and copious amounts of bullet points felt like a high school kid trying to get to their page limit. What are the authors qualifications on this topic? Where is the work cited page? Overall I was just not into this and found that it was just some reciting whatever they could find on Google.

[Ashley · Rating 5 out of 5]

Yes

I can’t lie I have read just about every book about anxious attachment there is to read. I’m truly glad it’s becoming a more common topic because anxious attachment really does affect your life relationships. I definitely learned some new techniques and loved the affirmations and meditations.

[K K · Rating 3 out of 5]

I knew nothing about attachment styles prior to reading this book, so I appreciated the tidbits and insight the author provided. However, the halting prose and obvious lack of editing drove me nuts. I would have appreciated having this book in audio format more but the written guided meditation were nice.

[Julee · Rating 5 out of 5]

Enlightening

This book helped me to better understand myself, family, and relationships. Reading it helps me to feel understood, grounded, and on my way to more secure relationships, including with myself. I will definitely come back to it in the future.

[Elza · Rating 4 out of 5]

I finished this in 3 hours. I am new to this and this book helped me out tremendously!!! I felt really validated in my feelings. It did repeat a lot of things, but I can’t wait to keep learning different ways to help center myself and not spiral as easily

[Greg · Rating 3 out of 5]

I was hoping for more of a workbook. There are things she suggests to work on that can help, but some of those are entire books in themselves.

[Wendi Stone · Rating 5 out of 5]

Great book, short but very insightful. I definitely recommend this book to anyone looking into attachment styles!

[Kat · Rating 3 out of 5]

I liked this book because it told you the various attachment types and how to cope with them. Not my favorite book but it offered good insight.

[Sarah Eckstein · Rating 3 out of 5]

Somewhat repetitive, but helpful information about the attachment style.

[Jill Norman · Rating 2 out of 5]

Basic…

[Kylee · Rating 5 out of 5]

I feel seen and heard

[Carrie LeeAnne · Rating 4 out of 5]

Very informative! A lot of useful information.

[Victoria White · Rating 2 out of 5]

Really basic overview of attachment styles. Not to be read if you already know anything about attachment. Felt like I was reading someone’s dissertation. A lot of it was so generic.

[Jomaris Rivera · Rating 2 out of 5]

Learned a little bit but a lot of it I already knew. It had good advice for ppl who do not know where to start with attachment styles.

[Lotte · Rating 5 out of 5]

really helpful and it’s written so loving and simple ♥️

[Aliyah Good · Rating 5 out of 5]

love love love

Linda did a great job breaking down complex concepts. Prior to reading this book I didn’t really understand advoidant attachment but this book made me reflect as if I had an advoidant attachment myself. I will be checking out her other books!!!