“comfortable. It doesn’t matter if she reciprocates and decides to be completely open with you. If she does want to, you can welcome her honesty. But the main point of this exercise is for you to be honest with her. Remember, being honest with her means taking responsibility for your feelings, rather than shaming and blaming. You need to do the following for at least one week: In the evening or near the end of every day, sit down with your wife or loved one. Be completely honest with her about any kind of abnormal thinking you had during that day. You might want to go through your day and relate anything you were ashamed of thinking. You don’t have to restrict yourself to thoughts about sex, because sex addiction is not just about sex. It’s about self-esteem and how you view yourself and your stories. Again, if your wife reciprocates, it could bring you closer. But don’t pressure her. If she does reciprocate, she also needs to avoid shaming and blaming. However, she doesn’t have to say a word. This exercise is about you being honest with people who are close to you. If you are open and honest, your wife is more likely to respond with loving-kindness. If you are vulnerable, you invite vulnerability.”