“What to Talk About Explore where each story comes from “My reactions here probably have a lot to do with my experiences in a previous job. . . .” Share the impact on you “I don’t know whether you intended this, but I felt extremely uncomfortable when . . . .” Take responsibility for your contribution “There are a number of things I’ve done that have made this situation harder. . . .” Describe feelings “I’m anxious about bringing this up, but at the same time, it’s important to me that we talk about it. . . .” Reflect on the identity issues “I think the reason this subject hooks me is that I don’t like thinking of myself as someone who . . . .”