Yankeecountess answers “This is NOT Christian fiction so reader...”

ShadowS asked this question about Maid to Match:

This is NOT Christian fiction so reader beware. She describes a wedding night among other things. Her books are not clean and should not be in the clean/Christian category. She needs to decide if she is writing for God or book sales. God is no where to be found in your writing Mrs. Gist.??

Yankeecountess I'm a Christian and I read all different kinds of romances, including ones with *gasp* sex in them, and personally I don't think there's anything wron…moreI'm a Christian and I read all different kinds of romances, including ones with *gasp* sex in them, and personally I don't think there's anything wrong or un-Godly about that. I have not read this book so I can't talk about *that* subject, I but I do take lots of umbridge with your statement, because it comes across as extremely closed-minded and quite frankly, "un-Christian"; I feel like you're the Pharisees ready to throw the first stone. Are you saying that sex in a loving marriage is evil? Because that's what your statement implies(less)

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ShadowS Romance novels have always been extremely popular, especially with women. In fact, romance novels have been labeled by some as “pornography for women. Romance novels have always been extremely popular, especially with women. In fact, romance novels have been labeled by some as “pornography for women.” Not all romance novels contain sex scenes or sexual innuendo, but, more and more often, that is becoming a component in them. Should a Christian read romance novels? This is a difficult question to answer because not all romance novels are the same. But the Bible has principles upon which to base our decisions in all of life’s questionable areas.

First is Paul’s admonition to believers in Philippians 4:8: “Whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things.” If the romance novel contains anything that is not honorable, pure, lovely or admirable, then we are not to “think about” it. Some people can read or watch or listen to things and forget them immediately afterward. Most people, however, are affected, some very deeply, by the things they take into their minds. If the elements of romance novels do not contain the things contained in the Philippians passage, then they fall into the category of what we are not to dwell upon. A good test is whether we could honestly say we could read from the novel out loud to Jesus and feel comfortable in doing so.

There are many Christian romance novels that offer rich characterizations and intriguing plots without sex scenes. There are many secular novels from previous eras that do the same thing. Jane Eyre, for instance, is a classic romance novel that not only contains nothing offensive, but its message is entirely in line with Christian principles. Many such books exist.

Another biblical principle to be considered is the need to protect our eyes, ears, and heart. It is important not to let novels, movies, or TV shows influence our perception of what is real. Many people watch TV or read books and begin to think those stories portray life as it is “supposed” to be. They then risk becoming disillusioned with their own lives, which don’t line up with “life” as portrayed in the books or movies.

As in all things, wisdom is available from God who promises to give it without finding fault (James 1:5). We can ask God to convict us of things that may be questionable, and His Spirit will speak to our hearts as we yield to Him for guidance.

All that being said, Sex within a married relationship is beautiful. However its closed door. I am not going to go look through my neighbors window and watch them have sex, I am not going to watch a married couple on tv have sex and I am not going to read a married couple having sex. Any way you want to slice it, if you watch or read a couple having sex, that is porn and it is wrong in the eyes of God. Please do not label yourself a Christian when you clearly are not. ...more
May 21, 2018 01:12PM · flag

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