John You must be proud of your daughter, and of, course, of course you must encourage her to read it. The book is NOT about sex, it is about love, and, trust me, 12 years old do know that love involves physical contact. She will not find in the book anything she does not know yet. It teaches young people human values, integrity, courage - everything we want our children to know and respect. If you will select books for you child based on whether they mention physical love or not, you will fail your duty as a parent and a citizen. I hope she has read this book and many others by now, and enjoyed them. God bless you and her.
This answer contains spoilers… (view spoiler)[I'm wondering if you might be able to find a YA book that may deal with similar topics, but more suitable for a young, impressionable mind. There is the first part of the book, which deals with the cruelty of war. Semi-explicit sex stuff. Unless your daughter has a good understanding of what a mutually respectful sexual situation looks like, I would not encourage this book. So, I would say too mature for a 12 year old. The "theatrics" around Liv and Paul's "first time" is for Hollywood, not real life. Hope this helps. (hide spoiler)]
Harper The sexual content is too detailed for a 12 year old, in my opinion, unless you're a very lenient parent about such things. (I'm a mom with kids of similar age.) There are only 2-3 scenes like that, but they do give detail.
Liza Lorenz I read any and everything as a child. My father was extremely strict in many ways, but never worried about what I read. At 13, I read James Michener's Hawaii. i read Frank Yerby's books VERY young. I say let a child read what the child is interested in. Be happy they are reading, and want and can absorb books that are above their supposed level. It will only broaden their horizons and be to their benefit.
Ruth I definitely would not allow my 12 year old to read. As others have said sexual content is too much.
This answer contains spoilers… (view spoiler)[I have a 12 year old who loves to read and if she wanted to read this (she didn't want to read it) I would've let her. Parts of it are great describing German occupation of France during WW1 although it can be pretty graphic. I know my daughter could handle it. As far as the sex scenes go, there are only 2 or 3 and I didn't think they were that bad. But my daughter is currently into the "Warrior" cat books and not at all interested in a book like this! (hide spoiler)]
Kathy Holland I would allow my 12-year-old to read this book. I hope you decide it's good for to read. The things that happened in this novel happened to children 12 and younger. Read it with her; help her understand the motivations of the people involved. And, as a 12-year-old, she is old enough to know about sex, and the motivations of the characters. If she doesn't, it's time to teach her.
Ka429 It is a great book- I don't remember detailed sex scenes at all. However, the content would've been too disturbing for me at age 12!
This answer contains spoilers… (view spoiler)[I read books with somewhat heavy sexual content when I was that age and I don't think it would be too much for her; however, this book is not your everyday romantic sexual content, it has a very non-consensual scene that I think WOULD be too much for a girl that age, even for me, I suffered all through it. Apart from that, the violence and cruelty in the book could also be too much for that age. I'm not saying we should keep this side of humanity hidden from the young but this is the kind a book that makes you loose a bit of hope in humanity and 12 year-olds are very impressionable. So, I would advice you wait at least two more years before you let her read something like that. (hide spoiler)]
Susie Davidson I am nearly 1/2 way through the book and it has totally turned the corner. I'm totally lost. I feel like I've begun a whole new book. Must I continue? Is it worth it? I'm an avid reader, but this one is weird!
This answer contains spoilers… (view spoiler)[There is strong language and violence throughout the book and is, in my opinion, unsuitable for a 7th grader. I would not feel comfortable offering this to anyone, unless they are :upper high school/college level. Perhaps something within the genre to educate her vis an veritable librarian. However, the whole book is confettied with War violence, abrupt suicide, inhuman treatment, strong language and as stated sexual content explicit enough forever me to skip over. (hide spoiler)]