Ashley answers “This book is disgusting to me. I do not...”

Patricia Barry asked this question about Educated:

This book is disgusting to me. I do not understand why an educated and worldly individual would have difficulty understanding the horrible and violent upbringing that she experienced. It is unbelievable to me that she could not understand the violent situation, yet uneducated upbringing she endured. I have completely misunderstood her manner of education in a life in our country, in this country, how is this possible?

Ashley Patricia maybe you are disgusted because you don't want to hear a story of a women feeling helpless and weak. She was born into that situation. I hope…morePatricia maybe you are disgusted because you don't want to hear a story of a women feeling helpless and weak. She was born into that situation. I hope that you can appreciate how much strength and courage it look her to climb out of her situation. To me that takes a hell of a strong woman and I am proud of her.

I didn't experience this level of toxic relationships but I was made to doubt myself and trust what other people said above my own memories. It's a form of brainwashing. It doesn't matter how bright you are. It happens to vulnerable/sensitive people who self evaluate and take responsibility even if it is not their fault. The "victim" trusts the words of the people they love above in trusting in themselves. Not until the victim starts to trust themselves can they heal and start to become healthy. The fact that this was normal for her from years of abuse is why she couldn't understand how toxic her relationships were. As soon as she went back home the habits were already there. She could easily fall back into that role.(less)

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