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A man had to face his mistakes head-on. Any other option poisoned the heart and led to weakness.
Dwelling on things that couldn’t be changed was emotional masturbation. It might scratch the itch at first, but you just ended up raw.
there were times in life that you had no control.
While it was easy to panic, from another point of view it was the one time in life that you didn’t need to feel fear. Whatever would come, would come. Instead of panicking, he tried to pay attention to what he could hear.
There were some people you just did not fuck with, at least not on their own turf.
couldn’t force himself to be something he was not. He couldn’t force either part of himself away. He’d learned long ago that you did not gain power over yourself by denying what you were. You had to accept and hold close the various parts of yourself, the gorgeous and the ugly alike. Then, and only then, could you choose how much to indulge your various impulses. By pretending part of you didn’t exist, you had no control at all.
He was agony, as much as he was joy, anger and chaos. The pain he was feeling was the pain of life, which would both take and give.
how could you move beyond the bounds of your current self if you could not even understand it?
if an asshole took the time to give you advice, then that was advice you should take seriously.
Richter focused on what he knew. That was all any man could do, and far better than most managed.
The way you control your emotions is to accept that they are part of you, bring them close, then decide that they will not define you. It takes a bit more time than mere repression, but it works far better.

