How to Stop Losing Your Shit with Your Kids: A Practical Guide to Becoming a Calmer, Happier Parent

by Carla Naumburg

You’re doing an incredibly hard job, and you’re doing it without the right information, support, resources, and rest.

Variety is the spice of life only as long as it’s not causing you to lose your shit.

Noticing is crucial; if you’re not aware of what’s happening, you can’t make the choice to do something differently.

Letting your kids feel their feelings without getting caught up in them or needing to fix them is an effective way to get a little headspace from their chaos.

You’re always practicing something, even if it’s something you don’t necessarily want to get better at.

The four nonnegotiable BuRPs (Button Reduction Practices) for cooling down your buttons are Single-Tasking, Sleep, Support, and Self-Compassion.

The following BurRPs will also help you stay calm in the face of chaos: Simplify, Stretch, Seek Silence, Slow Down, Say Thank You, and Breathe.

You always have another chance to get your shit together, even after you’ve lost it.