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(a) losing your shit is an emotional reaction, not a rational one, and (b) we don’t have nearly as much control over our feelings as we’d like to think. We can’t force ourselves to feel a particular way; all we can do is notice that we’re actually having a feeling so we can choose how to respond.
Toxic explosions are unpredictable, disproportionate reactions that can include angry words, physical outbursts, personal attacks, shame, and blame. The moment feels out of control.
it’s super important that you get clear on exactly what you do when you freak out because that behavior is the only thing you can control.
Your limbic system has a few different functions, but for now, just think of it as your inner toddler.
May you be happy. May you be healthy. May you be safe. May you live with ease.
Notice, Pause, and Do Literally Anything Else. That’s all it takes to not lose your shit with your kids. It’s simple, but not easy. Fortunately, it gets way easier with practice.
