Maybe You Should Talk to Someone: A Therapist, Her Therapist, and Our Lives Revealed

by Lori Gottlieb

classic displacement.”

Displacement’s a bitch, isn’t it?

people often come to therapy to understand why their parents won’t act in ways they wish, later on, people come to figure out how to manage what is. And so my question about my mother has gone from “Why can’t she change?” to “Why can’t I?”

all in the name of love,

eerily similar.

“The nature of life is change and the nature of people is to resist change.”

her mom loved her enough not to say I told you so.

permission slip to use my phone?”

if you sign up for intimacy, getting hurt is part of the deal.

not to be so judgmental—to be cautious but not closed-minded.

deeply hurt at seeing his dad become the father he wanted—but to different children.

“First you will do, then you will understand.”