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struggle to see themselves and others clearly),
The answer to an unasked question is always no,
So far I am a yes, but with more questions.
an exclusive offer.
I wanted our relationship to be based in complete truthfulness,
confined him to live only in the moment,
self-flagellating patients: You are not the best person to talk to you about you right now.
only partially about the loss of the other person; often it’s just as much about what the change represents—failure, rejection, betrayal, the unknown, and a different life story than the one they’d expected.
We keep stepping in the same puddle.
It’s easy to have smooth relationships on a surface level.)
we’d be negligent if we didn’t do them.”
“Most things worth doing are difficult,”
glib
he can’t quite reach me because I’m not allowing him to.
“I’m telling you this by way of invitation,”
We are afraid of change and we are afraid of not changing.
positioning himself above the rules—might
a crucial part of me goes missing.
panic, dread, regret, and shame.
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“Too many parents make life hard for their children by trying, too zealously, to make it easy for them.”
part of the problem.
“another book at this point would just be cruel.”)
“No problem can be solved from the same level of consciousness that created it.”
“I’m reminded,”
freedom involves responsibility,
How much do we want to know? How much is too much?
the party everyone wants to be at.
displaying the contents of my shopping cart feels somehow too revealing.
intelligent, kind, financially stable (“I don’t want anyone looking for a nurse and a purse”),
Thrice-divorced
psychomotor retardation.
recount the past twenty-four hours in as much detail as possible.
how their lives are peopled,
most of us aren’t aware of how we actually spend our time or what we really do all day until we break it down hour by hour and say it out loud.
how to order something on the internet from the privacy of my apartment.”
acclimate to the gradual changes over time?
Babies can die from lack of touch, and so can adults
“Let me tell you a story,”
‘Hello, family!’”
seethe with anger.”
delighted by how far we’d both come.
Z-list celebrities, meaning that hardly anyone knows who we are, but for those few who do, a sighting is significant.
inscrutable
can’t find the words to express the magnitude of what she’s feeling.
horribly disappointed with everything.
less prone to blaming others for her unhappiness (what we call externalizing).
get their bearings,
People communicate through their attendance—whether
What makes night within us may leave stars.
