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Bo Miller
Introverts talk far less than extroverts for this very reason. They want to know that they’re contributing a meaningful idea, one that they’ve had time to flesh out. If they have not thoroughly considered what they are thinking, they might not say anything at all.
Most introverts prefer writing to speaking because it allows them time to work out their thoughts before they share them.
An INFJ’s indirect, sensitive communication may not always get the point across to people who aren’t making an effort to “read their minds.”
For a lot of simple day-to-day decisions, INFJs may be creatures of habit. They do like routines because they cut back on the number of decisions the INFJ has to make. For instance, the INFJ may prefer to get the same kind of cereal, bread, and sandwich meat instead of trying something new. It’s not that INFJs don’t like to try new things, but they feel better when the decision has already been made and they can just get a task done.
Until they learn that many people communicate directly and are not concerned with feelings and harmony, INFJs will also be at risk for getting their feelings hurt. They have paper-thin skin. This is one of the biggest challenges of being an INFJ: you easily get your feelings hurt and are hypersensitive.
Furthermore, only one-and-a-half percent of the population is just like you. Remember that most people will have a difficult time understanding your perspectives and values. This is another one of the mountains confronting INFJs. Because we long to be understood and appreciated for who we are, we want others to empathize with us as we do with them. Realistically, we should not expect this to happen regularly.
