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by
Bo Miller
Started reading
April 9, 2019
Big Picture Thinkers As intuitives, INFJs focus on the big picture. They can tend to lose the trees for the forest. When they’re learning a concept or taking in a problem in order to come up with a solution, they want to know the context and how all the details relate to the whole. This doesn’t mean that they’re not good with details. On the contrary, when engrossed in a pet project or a meaningful effort to help someone in need, an INFJ can be quite perfectionistic. (INFJs are at their cores idealists who have extremely high standards for themselves.) That said, an INFJ would easily become
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Yes kristy!
INFJs have a knack for identifying patterns and seeing how things connect.
Yup
Because they look for patterns and connections, INFJs tend to arrive at conclusions instantaneously and all-of-the-sudden. One moment they’re looking at a bunch of stray puzzle pieces. The next, they’ve put them all together. More often than not, they may have a hunch or a gut feeling about something. They get this when their mind has subconsciously pieced the puzzle together and come up with an answer, as Dr. AJ Drenth describes the process. Explaining how the subconscious put the pieces together is the hard part. Regardless of the fact this process is often inexplicable, it works. There’ll
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Yes!
INFJs have an amazing ability to predict what is likely to happen in the future. They can look at a set of data and determine the outcome.
Yeah
They are, as Steven Covey put it, “begin with the end in mind” kind of people.
Creativity, after all, is seeing connections that no one else has ever seen before and putting two seemingly unconnected ideas together in a new way. INFJs are masters of this art.
Agreed
Finally, as intuitives, INFJs prefer to be learning and acquiring new skills regularly. Sensing types tend to prefer to master a skill and then continue to use it. Put an intuitive in that kind of job, and he’ll go nuts.
Yes
Approach to projects As Judgers, INFJs approach projects in a methodical way. They have a bent for backward planning. They begin with the end in mind and then work backward to determine what needs to be done and when.
Yes!
Since elementary school, I’ve been good at puns. I love words and their multiple meanings, so I’m always looking for double meanings. I don’t have to make a conscious effort. When I hear a sentence, my brain naturally analyzes the phrase and thinks about other phrases that would go with it. Most people who know me well can’t spend an hour with me without hearing three or four puns - or ridiculous jokes. For instance, when my son had a toy sheep in his hand the other day when my wife and I were visiting her family, I asked him, “Are you feeling sheepish as though someone has pulled the wool
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Lmao me too
Most INFJs are good with words, and I think it’s largely because of this function - and perhaps because of extroverted feeling. They don’t just know language, but they have a deep awareness of the meaning and power of each of the words.
Yes!
This past year, I read and listened to a combined 80 books.
Me too
As NFs, INFJs naturally see possibilities for people: this is when introverted intuition and extroverted feeling work together. An INFJ can project what will come to pass for an individual based on her current state of affairs. He also loves to help her figure out what she’s good at and create an action plan to help her get there.
Yes!!
That experience frustrated me to no end and taught me that I need to be more careful when I decide to help someone: I need to know that the person is actually going to do something before I invest time because I need to see that the project is moving forward.
Same
I have an insatiable desire for knowledge and for understanding how the world works. Futurist
Me too
I think - a lot. I analyze observations I’ve made about people, brainstorm, introspect, reflect on earlier conversations, and ask why things are as they are. What I think about varies widely, but I’m always thinking about something, putting my introverted intuition to work.
Yup
When my introverted intuition and extroverted feeling combine, they give me an intense desire to understand people and what makes them tick. My friends and family think I’m always psychoanalyzing everyone around me. I wouldn’t call it that. I just love to figure out why they do what they do.
Yes!
First and foremost, extroverted feeling is concerned with meeting other people’s needs. It makes decisions based on values and is primarily based on how others will be impacted by decisions. It seeks to include others, make them feel as though they’re part of the group, and meet their emotional needs. Because INFJs use this function, they’re adept at picking up on and interpreting how people are feeling. They can do this without anyone else ever telling them how they’re feeling. This is true of almost all extroverted feeling users.
Yes!
Because INFJs pair extroverted feeling with introverted intuition, they have an incredible ability to “mind read”, or so it would seem to outside observers. Attending to the nuances of people’s body language, facial expressions, and voice intonation, they infer - usually very accurately - how others are really doing. They read between the lines and depend more on nonverbal information than on the words they hear. As a result, they’re often extremely perceptive and great at helping people work through problems.
Yup
In fact, if you were to break INFJ work down to a formula, it would look like this: privacy + originality + helping others = satisfying work.
Uh huh
Until they learn that many people communicate directly and are not concerned with feelings and harmony, INFJs will also be at risk for getting their feelings hurt. They have paper-thin skin. This is one of the biggest challenges of being an INFJ: you easily get your feelings hurt and are hypersensitive.
Yeah..
Extroverted feeling, as we explored earlier, is primarily concerned with relational harmony and helping other people. To take action on their visions and get moving, INFJs would be wise to picture a specific person or people that they’ll be able to help when they start taking action on their vision. Whenever they’re hesitant to get moving, they need to reconnect with a real, live human being. That doesn’t mean that they need to go see or call anyone. Rather, they just need to stop and remember that someone could use their help. No matter how much better they think someone else is at something
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I need to remember this
Friends can help INFJs overcome this challenge. Accountability is essential to progress. No one succeeds alone. I was reminded of this fact when I read the following words from personal development guru Michal Stawicki: “If you want to change, change with someone else. That should be your new default.”
I knew i couldn't do it alone
While any of us can make a certain amount of progress alone, none of us can succeed indefinitely alone.
I know
I know
For nearly half a year, we met every week to ask each other about our progress and to push one another to keep going. We provided objective feedback and cheered each other on. I also obtained a mentor, and I’m so glad that I did. INFJs appreciate the wisdom and experience that a trusted guide brings to the table. As the type most likely to seek professional help from a counselor, it shouldn’t be a stretch to find some assistance from someone who’s already succeeded at what you want to do. And if the thing you’re trying to do is important enough to you, I would recommend paying for it, if you
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Hmm
Accountability partners change over time. This reality frustrated me at first, but when I realized that people’s interests changed along with their life stages and availability, I also realized that I wasn’t going to change the world.
Ok
Be aware that some of your accountability partners will drop off, so be ever on the lookout for new partners to bring in. Think of people who you admire. Remember Jim Rohn’s quote, “You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with.” Then, choose accountability partners whose lives you want to emulate.
Hmm
Two proverbs come to mind. One says, “As iron sharpens iron, so one man sharpens another.” An African proverb says, “If you want to go fast, go alone. If you want to go far, go with others.”
Nice
