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David Deida
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January 28 - July 17, 2025
Do what you love to do, what you are waiting to do, what you’ve been born to do, now.
Every moment waited is a moment wasted, and each wasted moment degrades your clarity of purpose.
Days and nights fly by for years, and life slips through your fingers, your attention absorbed in the seeming world of necessary responsibilities.
NEVER CHANGE YOUR MIND JUST TO PLEASE A WOMAN
You should always listen to your woman, and then make your own decision.
Every man knows that his highest purpose in life cannot be reduced to any particular relationship.
Own your fear, and lean just beyond it. In every aspect of your life. Starting now.
The way a man penetrates the world should be the same way he penetrates his woman: not merely for personal gain or pleasure, but to magnify love, openness, and depth.
The most erotic moment for a woman is feeling that you are Shiva, the divine masculine: unperturbable, totally loving, fully present, and all-pervading.
She cannot scare you away, because you already penetrate her in fearless love, pervading her heart and body. She cannot distract you, because your one-pointed commitment to truth will not bend to her wiles.
A man’s word is his honor. The feminine says what it feels.
You might ask her, “Do you want to go to the movies?” She might reply, “Not really.” Then you hug her and spin her around and say, “Let’s go to the movies!” And she says, “Okay!”
The “truth” of the feminine is whatever she is really feeling, in this present moment.
Don’t believe the literal content of what your woman says unless love is flowing deeply and fully in the moment when she says it. And even then, know that she is probably talking about her current feelings, not necessarily about the subject of whatever she is talking about.
You should hear what your woman has to say and feel her depth carefully.
Praise her freely.
“I love the shape of your body,” will be much greater incentive for her to exercise than telling her, “I hope you don’t gain any more weight.”
When speaking to your woman, it is always better to call the glass half full than half empty.
Praise is literal food for feminine qualities.
If you want your woman to grow in her radiance, health, happiness, love, beauty, power, and depth, praise these qualities. Pr...
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Praise works. Information doesn’t. Praise motivates.
Praise specific things you love about your woman five to ten times a day.
90 percent of a woman’s emotional problems stem from feeling unloved.
what she really wants is a man who can figure it out for himself. She wants a man who loves her, and escorts her with his loving, without having to ask her what she wants all the time.
She wants to be able to trust him in his direction.
the feminine’s priority is the flow of love in relationship. But the masculine priority is purpose and direction.
Let her be the ocean. Encourage her to be as free as the ocean, as deep as the ocean, as wild as the ocean, and as powerful as the ocean.
To her, you have failed at your word. She can’t trust you.
Although your woman seems to want to be the most important thing in your life, she actually can trust and love you more if she is not.
To the feminine, history is irrelevant. What counts is the feeling in the moment.
Your past successes mean nothing to her present feeling of your failure.
Restore love and happiness in the present moment, don’t justify your little mistake by referring to your long line of successes.
she needs to feel that she can get on your train and that it’s going exactly where she wants to go.
The “killer” your woman wants is the one who knows that life is a process of dying through to that which cannot be lost. Only in this sacrifice of fear can your heart remain unguarded.
Rather than fantasizing or entertaining inward sexual imagery of any kind, remain totally present, aware of your own body, breath, and mind, and especially attentive to your partner. Break the masturbatory habit of inward fantasy by consciously practicing sex as a relational play of love with your partner.
Keep your body and breath relaxed and full. Especially keep the front of your body relaxed, so that your belly is vast and your heart is soft and wide. This will help prevent too much tension from accumulating in any one area.
Learn to feel into, and then through, your partner, so that your attention is directed beyond your own sensations and even beyond your partner’s sensations. Practice feeling outward, without limit, as if you were feeling to infinity. In other words, whatever you are feeling, feel it fully, and then feel through and beyond it, so that sex becomes a constant feeling through and beyond every sensation, rather than focusing on any particular sensation.
During sex, occasionally practice the upward contraction of the floor of your pelvis while breathing sexual energy up your spine, so it fills your whole body. Especially as you begin to approach orgasm, you can combine the upward contraction of your pelvic floor with breathing up the spine in order to shoot your orgasm up into your brain, and even out through the top
This upward orgasm will then feel like it is gently seeping down through every cell of your body, saturating you with thick open light.
Only when you are willing to support each other’s core desires will the intimacy give each of you what you want, and then perhaps bring you beyond even that, into the utter joy of being, of which your relationship is only a hope.
You can be responsible for yourself. In particular, you realize that you are responsible for your own happiness. Nobody can live your life for you. You must create your own health, success, and happiness.
Your masculine gift is to know where you are, where you want to be, and what you need to do to get there.
This vision is, essentially, the basic gift you have to offer your woman, as well as the world.
Without a woman to serve your present embodiment of love, you might spend most of your time working on your projects, staring into a computer screen, churning thoughts in your head, or seeking future goals of financial or spiritual freedom. Meanwhile, you have lost touch with the present, with your body and your woman.
Feel through your woman and the world, and die in the giving of your gift.
Like dissolving in the intensity of an orgasm, a man’s greatest desire is to be utterly released.
