The Way of the Superior Man: A Spiritual Guide to Mastering the Challenges of Women, Work, and Sexual Desire

by David Deida

A happy woman is a woman relaxed in her body and heart:

feminine’s priority is the flow of love in relationship.

masculine priority is purpose and direction.

The best way you can serve your woman is by helping her to surrender, to trust the force of love,

it’s important that you, as a man, don’t project your way of doing things onto your woman.

A superior man penetrates her mood with imperturbable love and unwavering consciousness.

One of the deepest feminine pleasures is when a man stands full, present, and unreactive in the midst of his woman’s emotional storms.

You can, however, train yourself to master the world—financially, creatively, spiritually—by learning how to be free and loving in the chaos of your woman’s emotions.

only options are fear or mastery. You can quit, you can choose small steer and tiny waves, you can wait for your woman to calm down, or you can even threaten her. Or, you can take the moment as a challenge to your ability to conquer the world, and your woman, with love.

Keep your breath full. Keep your body strong. Keep your attention present. No matter what your woman says or does, give her love.

The game of life is to find each situation workable, to transform each occasion through the magnification of love, to give your fullest gift in every moment,

A man abandons responsibility by expecting that his woman will always make her own decisions and then be accountable for the results. This expectation is a withholding of his masculine gift. It puts a woman in the position of magnifying her own masculine.

Your woman asks you for input, and you say, “Whatever you want to do is fine with me.” This is the statement of a friend, not a lover.

One of your most valuable gifts is the ability to see all the options and make a decision based on this view of all the potential outcomes.

Feminine decisions are based on what feels right,

the point in intimacy is not simply to make the best decision, but to make the best decision while maintaining the force of masculine/feminine polarity ...

Offering your perspective on decisions is one way to give your masculine gift. Even on the most trivial decisions, never say, “Do whatever you want.”

always help your woman make decisions by giving her your perspective and telling her your choices,