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David Deida
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May 11 - May 13, 2020
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your early childhood experience, cultural influence, and perhaps even your genetics. But one aspect of “taste” has to do with how a woman affects you with her energetics.
In any case, it’s important to realize that your needs for different kinds of energy will change throughout your life. It’s something you will need to learn how to deal with. It’s
Once she feels your neediness, once she feels that you need her more than she needs you, she will never trust your masculine core.
The priority of the masculine core is mission, purpose, or direction in life.
The priority of the feminine core is the flow of ...
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Sometimes a woman will make a request of her man in plain English, not to get him to do something, but to see if he is so weak that he will do it. In other words, she is testing his capacity to do what is right, not what she is asking for. In such cases, if the man does what his woman asks, she will be disappointed and angry. The man will have no idea why she is so angry or what could possibly please her. He must remember that her trust is engendered not by him fulfilling her requests, but by him magnifying love, consciousness, and success in their lives, in spite of her requests.
Yet she will rarely ask you directly for these things. She would rather try to distract you from your truth, and then feel that she cannot—that you hold fast to your truth while you continue to love her.
And the divine feminine settles for nothing less than the divine masculine.
diminution
she wants your passionate fullness to pervade her, she wants to be able to trust the unshakability of your loving, she wants to feel in her bones that your divine masculine presence is stronger than your distractibility.
Always apply your sword of discrimination to your woman’s requests, never taking them at face value, but always checking with your deepest wisdom and following the road of your highest truth, even if it seems to mean disappointing your woman.
Women are always wanting divine masculine presence in a man, regardless of their specific complaint or mood. A man should hear his woman’s complaints like warning bells, and then do his best to align his life with his truth and purpose. However, if he believes in the literal content of her complaint, he will immediately go off course, for the content reflects her present mood more than a careful observation of his tendencies over time. Her complaint should be valued as a reminder to “get it together,” and perhaps as an indication as to how. But more often than not, the specifics of her
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When she complains about financial issues, she is usually feeling a lack in your masculine capacity to direct your life with clarity, purpose, integrity, and wisdom.
If you were poor but totally conscious, happy, full of integrity, fearless, humorous, loving, and giving your fullest gift to the world and to your woman, she wouldn’t complain about lack of money.
The deeper issue is that you didn’t do what you said you would.
Your word is a demonstration of your purpose, of your masculine core.
Over time, she will begin to build up her own masculine protection against your lack of integrity. She will begin to guard herself against the hurt that your lack of carry-through causes.
slovenly.
it is usually more a complaint about your whole life, your lack of persistence and clarity.
You must listen to your woman more as an oracle than as an advisor.
If she can’t trust you with living your life from your deepest wisdom and fullest capacity, she can’t trust you with her life.
A woman sometimes seems to want to be the most important thing in her man’s life. However, if she is the most important thing, then she feels her man has made her the number one priority and is not fully dedicated or directed to divine growth and service. She will feel her man’s dependence on her for his happiness, and this will make her feel smothered by his neediness and clinging. A woman really wants her man to be totally dedicated to his highest purpose—and also to love her fully. Although she would never admit it, she wants to feel that her man would be willing to sacrifice their
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Although your woman seems to want to be the most important thing in your life, she actually can trust and love you more if she is not.
man’s highest purpose is his priority, not his intimacy.
Be careful not to substitute default responsibilities for true purpose.
frivolity
Though she may not always like your choices, she will love them, and she will love you for having the courage to live your truth.
A man’s track record means nothing to the feminine. A man could be perfect for ten years, but if he’s an asshole for thirty seconds his woman acts like he’s always been one. The feminine responds to the moment of energy, forgetting her man’s history of past behavior. A man’s past behavior is irrelevant to his woman’s feeling in the moment. But men base much on another man’s history of behavior, so they think their own track record should count for something. But to a woman, it doesn’t.
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To the feminine, history is irrelevant.
Surprise her in some loving way, and the emotional slate will be wiped clean.
Restore love and happiness in the present moment, don’t justify your little mistake by referring to your long line of successes.
A woman must be able to trust you to take charge if she relaxes her own masculine edge. This is true financially, sexually, emotionally, and spiritually. The man doesn’t have to actually do all the work, but he must be able to steer the course if his woman is going to relax into her feminine without fear.
The more relaxed she is in her feminine, the more radiant your woman will be.
If you have the slightest uncertainty or ambiguity about your financial future, your woman will feel it. You don’t have to say anything about it. She’ll feel your doubt or ambiguity in your body, eyes, and the tone of your voice.
The more ambiguous you seem, financially and spiritually, the more she will need to pour her energy and attention into her own masculine direction and goals.
You become more responsible by knowing your deepest purpose, and then arranging your finances and spiritual life from that knowingness.
The essential masculine ecstasy is in the moment of release from constraint. This could occur when facing death and living through it, succeeding in (and thus being released from) your purpose, and in competition (which is ritual threat of death). The masculine is always seeking release from constraint into freedom. The feminine often doesn’t understand these masculine ways and needs.
Orgasm is one. The typical masculine orgasm, as you probably know, involves a build-up of tension, or constraint, until the dam finally breaks, and your tension and energy are released.
The post-orgasmic state is one of death-like peace, an emptiness akin to a blissful oblivion. The masculine is always seeking this release in one way or another.
are directed toward more freedom.
The typical masculine desire for freedom involves the feeling of death, which is the ultimate masculine fear and freedom, in one way or another. Orgasm is actually called petite mort or “little death” in French.
War, which is motivated by the desire for freedom, is a quintessential masculine pursuit.
The capacity to face death for the sake of freedom, whether actually in war or ritually on the football field or chess board, is the ultimate masculine act, evoking men’s deepest emotions.
Ego death, absolute surrender to the point of oneness, is the ultimate freedom.
You must own the primacy of your desire to be free.
transcendence of the fear of death by facing the limiting stress of your own self-sense, and relaxing through it, into the absolute freedom you have always intuited at your core, but sought through only temporary means.
woman’s bliss is not in emptiness, but in fullness.
