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The INFP already lives in a land that’s over-populated with the people they could have become.
"I feel like I could've been someone by now"
"I often find myself grieving the person I could've been"
if there’s one thing the world doesn’t need, it’s one more INFP trying to act like a type that they’re not.
the world doesn’t need another half-hearted imitation of any of those types.
me when I work customer service jobs -_-
this ever-shifting set of identities is one of the key identifiers of the INFP personality. This type comes to understand themselves by first constructing a thousand different identities for themselves—and eventually settling on which one suits them best.
Personality type, at its core, is a reflection of how you process information and reach decisions.
Whether the function is extroverted or introverted refers to whether it is oriented outward—toward the world of action, or inward, toward the world of introspection.
we each use two introverted functions and two extroverted functions. We also each use one intuitive function, one sensing function, one feeling function and one thinking function.
extroverted
we each use two introverted functions and two extroverted functions. We also each use one intuitive function, one sensing function, one feeling function and one thinking function.
introverted
we each use two introverted functions and two extroverted functions. We also each use one intuitive function, one sensing function, one feel...
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introverted
we each use two introverted functions and two extroverted functions. We also each use one intuitive function, one sensing function, one feel...
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extroverted
We refer to our intuitive and sensing functions as our perceptive functions, since we use them to perceive the world around us. We refer to our thinking and feeling functions as our judging—or decision-making—functions, as we use them to make decisions....
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Introverted Feeling (or Fi)
- most dominant decision-making function
- introspective
Extroverted Intuition (or Ne) Introverted Sensing (or Si)
perceptive functions (way we perceive the world around us)
Extroverted Thinking (or Te)
decision-making function
The fact that you have a mix of introverted and extroverted functions—as well as a mix of feeling, thinking, intuitive and sensing functions—explains why you often feel introverted when you’re processing your emotions or forming an opinion, but extroverted when you’re brainstorming ideas or making plans with friends. It explains why you can back up your beliefs with indisputable logic and hard facts, but you form them from a compassionate, humanitarian standpoint.
Introverted feeling is both a highly emotional and a highly analytical function. It intuitively picks up on emotional nuances in its environment and internally deciphers those nuances—seeking to uncover the deeper meaning or emotional truth behind any given situation.
every strong feeling they experience is a clue that leads to a greater ‘truth’ or understanding about humanity.
introverted feeling seeks truth and authenticity.
Fi is the reason why you search for the deeper universal meaning behind everything that happens to you. Fi is the reason why you experience intense emotional highs and lows, which sometimes feel out of your control. Fi is the reason why you spend so much time daydreaming about an ideal version of yourself or your life. Fi is the reason why you feel the strong need to advocate for your values and beliefs when someone says something that contradicts or offends them. Fi is the reason why your life sometimes feels more like a story than an actual real-world experience. Fi is the reason why you
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Extroverted intuition (Or Ne) is the INFP’s exploration function. It dwells primarily in the future and gains energy through connecting ideas and exploring new possibilities. The INFP enjoys using this function to imagine various different versions of their future and consider how they might feel in each one. Ne possesses the unique ability to consider multiple opposing
it formulates new possibilities in a seemingly endless manner—which the INFP eventually turns to Si to narrow down.
It is indubitably Ne’s quick ability to shift perspective that makes the INFP so adept at putting themselves in other’s shoes.
Ne = where our empathy is derived from…?
Ne is an extroverted function, it gains the most energy when it is interacting with its external environment.
The more action the INFP takes on their desires, the more input they give Ne to expand upon and their Fi to analyze.
Ne is the reason why you have to examine a situation from absolutely every possible angle before you can form a decisive opinion on it. Ne is the reason why you gain a surprising amount of energy through discussing big picture ideas with other intuitive types. Ne is the reason why you experience intense bursts of creative energy when you decide to take on a new project. Ne is the reason why you speculate about the future in a far-out, fanciful fashion. Ne is the reason why you are able to look at things from just about anyone’s point of view, whether you agree with their viewpoint or not. Ne
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Introverted sensing is a memory-based function that compares new environmental stimuli or ideas to past experiences and known facts. It is detail-oriented and is skilled at remembering specific facts or pieces of information that are relevant for its user.
Once extroverted intuition has formulated the various possibilities that exist in the INFP’s environment, introverted sensing measures each possibility against the INFP’s past experiences—pinpointing which similar situations have worked out well for the INFP and which have not.
it enjoys replaying past experiences and reflecting on ‘better times.’
It stores past memories and draws upon them to help its user plan for the future based on what has worked well in the past.
Si is the reason why you have a tendency to be hopelessly sentimental about where you’ve been, no matter how excited you are about where you’re going.
Te doesn’t fully develop in the INFP until approximately middle age, so traditional definitions of the function may not apply to the
Prior to maturation, Te often manifests for the INFP as a point of insecurity. This feeling-oriented type often fears that others perceive them to be incompetent and they may take extensive measures to appear intelligent and rational at all costs. They will essentially become their own worst critics in order to avoid criticism from others.
Underdeveloped Te is the reason why you can be harshly critical of your own creative work when you are attempting to determine how others may view it.
Underdeveloped Te is the reason why you secretly fear that others will perceive you as incompetent, and you take extreme measures to ensure you are coming across as well read and intelligent in conversation.
wow.
Underdeveloped Te is the reason why you are quick to pick up on small errors others make in spelling or logical reasoning and deem them incompetent as a result –because you take extreme care to avoid such errors yourself.
Healthy Te is the reason why you are able to follow through on the projects and plans that you have committed to.
...on time?
Healthy Te is the reason why you can form persuasive arguments around the topics that you believe in.
type actualization.
introverted feeling and extroverted intuition are the most dominant functions in the INFP’s brain,
Everything introverted feeling does affects and is noticed by extroverted thinking. Everything extroverted intuition does affects and is noticed by introverted sensing.
While Introverted Feeling is processing the INFP’s feelings about a given situation, Extroverted Thinking is formulating a tangible plan to help the INFP achieve their desires. While Extroverted Intuition is exploring and engaging new ideas or plans for the future, Introverted Sensing is tagging along in the background, making connections between what Extroverted Intuition is currently suggesting and what has worked well in similar situations in the past.
at the end of the day, introverted feeling and extroverted intuition will always be the main functions in charge of the INFP’s brain—and they will consequently always be the functions that the INFP ends up trusting the most.
this cerebral front masks a deep and complex inner world that engages the INFP in a way that even the most stimulating of external experiences often fails to.
From a young age, this type is able to keenly understand the underlying motivations of others, often shocking others with their uncanny perceptions.
INFP children are often revered for their intelligence—many being labeled as ‘gifted’ early on in life—but end up struggling to adhere to a highly structured school environment. This type is undeniably bright, but their learning process is anything but traditional.
there is an undeniably spiritual component to the INFP’s personality that keeps them endlessly searching for patterns and links behind seemingly unconnected experiences.
While they may seem agreeable and pleasant on the surface, the INFP feels the intense, unyielding need to remain true to themselves at all costs. They see any potential decision or judgment as a direct extension of themselves and may therefore experience difficulty making even the smallest of day-to-day decisions.
When it comes to big-picture decisions, the INFP feels almost physically unable to engage in any career, relationship or activity that they do not feel passionately connected to.
Which personality tools you use to interact with the world will depend on where you are in terms of cognitive development as well as which external circumstances you are facing.
their dominant cognitive function—introverted feeling—is actually a judging function. What this means is that the INFP prefers to come to a decision about how they feel about a particular situation (using their dominant introverted feeling) before physically exploring alternatives (using extroverted intuition).
