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Feeling undervalued or as though their true skills and talents are going to waste at many of the jobs they take on.
Feeling unable to bridge the gap between their desire to do something amazing with their life and the resources that are available to them to do it.
Because this type is so heavily guided by the desires of their introverted feeling but still lacks the concrete support that extroverted thinking will eventually bring to their idealism, INFPs often find themselves feeling sure of who they are but lost on what to do about it as they move through their late teens and twenties.
Enjoying an increased confidence in their choice to live life on their own terms and explore the interests that matter to them, rather than following what others want for them.
From the age of approximately thirty onwards, INFPs begin to develop their inferior function, extroverted thinking. This function helps the INFP to set and accomplish concrete goals, back up their opinions logically and bridge the gap between their dreams and their everyday life.
Extroverted thinking helps this type to advocate for themselves—where they may once have balked at the thought of drawing attention to their creative work (wanting to be discovered authentically), extroverted thinking helps this type to become more comfortable promoting themselves and their work.
“Your life is not a movie and you’re not the main character. No one cares about what you do, say, or think as much you believe. And this is a good thing. Let go of silly insecurities and quit worrying about the future. Learn to appreciate the here and now and let go of the past. Also... those emo lyrics away messages will NOT win your crush over.”
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Trying to be like everyone else, I pushed down my creativity and spontaneity that I had when I was very young. It was not until college that I started to allow myself to just settle into who I was again.”
“You truly are different. How you think, act and are is a rarity amongst your peers. Don’t hide or dull that by fitting in. Accept it, develop it and own it.”
not everyone else feels with the same intensity as we do. This is not to say that everyone is cold and emotionless compared to INFPs, more so that the over-emotional reaction that I would have to a situation isn’t a universal response. I used to walk through life on eggshells because I was terrified that I would hurt people’s feelings the same way little words and actions had the power to shatter my day. I think INFPs are so often perceived as pushovers and meek because to hurt someone’s feelings is the worst insult imaginable, so staying quiet and keeping the peace is a much easier option.
You are not your broken pieces. You are how you put them back together.”
“You are not wrong, you are different. The inability to stay on task can be a strength. Don’t give up on your imagination! It’s going to be a huge strength. Being sensitive is not a weakness, it is a strength.”
“You have a lot to give. There will be people who don’t know how to handle it, people who don’t want it and people who don’t understand it. This is not your fault and giving love is one of...
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“Do what it best for you! It’s as simple as that! Don’t wait for any miracles or signs, they may not come. So stop procrastinating and waiting to ‘feel’ like doing something.”
When you find someone who understands you, don’t lose them. Always learn from others and stay true to yourself.”
“Feeling deeply, idealism, and caring about people makes it easy to be ruled by guilt, disappointment, and approval: DON’T DO IT. Don’t let this world make you hard, and don’t let the imperfections of life and relationships make you cynical. Don’t let it steal your hope.”
“I’m glad you have not been jaded by what you see around you. Being that inner child back then was so much more effortless than ...
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Self-validation is a far better fuel source than external validation. And loving yourself will mean you can love and support others better anyway.”
“Learn boundaries early. Once you control what you let into your life, you will be able to enjoy people more.
“Being an introvert is a wonderful thing. But remember to experience the world outside of yourself too. It is important and where you will spend your existence.”
“Don’t stop yourself from feeling—but don’t let it destroy you. You were born to care too much and love too much, so do that. The people that matter will see the beauty in it, the ones that don’t will go away.”
Don’t ask what the world needs. Ask what makes you come alive, and go do it. Because what the world needs is people who have come alive. —Howard Thurman
Corporate culture as a whole is perhaps the exact antithesis of the INFP personality.
they often struggle to find a workplace that allows them to bring their authentic self to the job every day. For this reason, the young INFP may change career paths various times over the course of their life, until they find a trajectory that aligns with their interests and values.
INFPs may be quick to get down on themselves about their inability to immediately find a satisfying and meaningful career for themselves but in reality, they simply need to give their extroverted intuition enough time to try out various options and narrow down what they like best.
the INFP’s job satisfaction is ultimately dependent upon the structure and values of the organization they find themselves aligned with.
| The INFP is essentially incapable of working at any place that they feel endorses corrupt or inauthentic values.
They need to feel as though the work they’re doing is a genuine reflection of their own values, and that they are not ‘putting on a face’ to show up to work every day. This type needs to work for an organization that allows them to bring their genuine personality to the job.
INFPs don’t want to be a faceless employee to their company—they wish to feel deeply connected to their workplace and the people who make it up. If this type doesn’t feel a personal sense of significance at work, they are unlikely to remain committed to their position for very long.
Repeating dull or monotonous tasks is torturous for the INFP—this type thrives on the opportunity to create, invent and play with new ideas.
To stay satisfied at work long-term, the INFP needs to be able to bring a creative flair to whatever they’re doing—whether it’s producing art or simply coming up with new ways of tackling existing problems in the workplace.
Though the INFP needs to maintain creative autonomy over their own work, they thrive best in environments that already have a moderate degree of external structure in place. They may work best under the mentorship of judger bosses, who are able to keep the INFP on track with big-picture goals, but also allow them to tackle problems creatively and autonomously.
This type certainly possesses the vision, the passion and the commitment to make their own wildest dreams come true—but first they have to reach the point where they are able to harness extroverted thinking and handle the more mundane aspects of managing a business.
The INFP has an incredibly difficult time staying motivated if they feel as though the work they’re doing isn’t giving back to others or the world around them in any meaningful way.
This type is driven by the desire to help and heal the world around them—and they need a career that gives them at least some small means of doing so every day.
Once they find a workplace that suits them, the INFP makes for a focused, passionate and supremely loyal worker. They are inventive and motivated individuals who are genuinely willing to pour the whole of themselves into whichever position they take on. As colleagues, this type is known for going out of their way to make sure the workplace is a peaceful and harmonious place for everyone.
INFPs are clever and analytical thinkers who can easily formulate creative solutions to complex problems. INFPs genuinely care about others, and will naturally go out of their way to make coworkers and clients feel comfortable and understood. INFPs are highly invested workers who will pour their entire heart into any task they feel strongly about. INFPs are incredibly creative workers who add an intriguing personal flair to just about everything they do. INFPs are big-picture thinkers who intuitively perceive and understand the causes behind recurring problems. INFPs are extremely determined
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INFPs may fail to advocate or speak up for themselves in the workplace, because they don’t want to rock the boat.
INFPs may wish to be self-employed but not want to deal with the administrative drudgeries of self-employment.
INFPs may struggle immensely to find a career that offers them the opportune mix of structure, community, creative freedom and meaning.
Because they are so emotionally aware, many INFPs are drawn to helping or caretaking roles. However, these roles may also be quick to burn the INFP out. This type already lives in a feeling-laden world—some report that it’s a relief to have a profession that forces them to put their feelings aside for several hours a day!
this type may want to consider choosing a profession that highlights their auxiliary extroverted intuition. Careers that call upon them to think outside the box, explore possibilities and engage their creativity are likely to be energizing for the INFP. These types of professions allow them to play upon their strengths without depleting their emotional reserves.
your ideal workplace may be a place that you create, rather than find.
good work environments aren’t always found—they’re made.
When receiving constructive criticism from colleagues or bosses, keep in mind that they are providing you with feedback because they value your work and see opportunities for growth in you. Rather than looking at it as an attack, recognize that criticism is often a thinking type’s way of expressing the potential they see in you—just like you see the potential in everyone else.
The INFP is a natural team player and they are likely to benefit immensely from combining their passionate ideals with the detail-orientation and follow-through of sensing, judging types.
Since disciplining themselves to follow through on long-term goals may be difficult for the INFP, they may elect to hold themselves publically accountable for completing mini-tasks. Because the INFP hates letting others down, he or she is likely to feel particularly motivated to complete a task if others are holding them accountable for it.
they need to remember that they cannot give from an empty vessel. Introverted feeling is a function that needs replenishing—through reflection, relaxation or any other forms of self-care that center and balance the INFP.
The more this type incorporates self-care practices into their workday, the more effective of a worker they will be in the short-term—and the less likely they will be to burn out in the long-term.
the INFP—who does their best and brightest work when inspired—being on a path that doesn’t excite them is a waste of their immeasurable potential.
