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The “self-image” is the key to human personality and human behavior. Change the self-image and you change the personality and the behavior.
Your self imagine controls your life
the brain and nervous system constitute a marvelous and complex “goal-striving mechanism,” a sort of built-in automatic guidance system which works for you as a “success mechanism,” or against you as a “failure mechanism,” depending on how “YOU,” the operator, operate it and the goals you set for it.
Your brain and nervous system work together to accomplish goals you set, consciously or subconsciously, these goals can be percived as succsesful or unsuccessful.
Our present state of self-confidence and poise is the result of what we have “experienced” rather than what we have learned intellectually.
Your anxitey, depression or lack of self confidence comes from what you have experienced in the past
Trying to be “a success” in terms of acquiring prestige symbols and wearing certain badges leads to neuroticism, and frustration and unhappiness. Striving to be “successful” brings not only material success, but satisfaction, fulfillment and happiness.
This self-image is our own conception of the “sort of person I am.”
We all carry a self image around with us. You might not even recognise this self image
But most of these beliefs about ourselves have unconsciously been formed from our past experiences, our successes and failures, our humiliations, our triumphs, and the way other people have reacted to us, especially in early childhood.
You interpret all your experiences which all combine to create your self image. Each embarassing moment, each sucsess
All your actions, feelings, behavior—even your abilities—are always consistent with this self-image.
The self-image can be changed. Numerous case histories have shown that one is never too young nor too old to change his self-image and thereby start to live a new life.
Lecky conceived of the personality as a “system of ideas,” all of which must seem to be consistent with each other. Ideas which are inconsistent with the system are rejected, “not believed,” and not acted upon. Ideas which seem to be consistent with the system are accepted. At the very center of this system of ideas—the keystone—the base upon which all else is built, is the individual’s “ego ideal,” his “self-image,” or his conception of himself.
If ypu wnt to achieve something that is not alligned with the self image you will find a way to destruct
“I failed that test” (factual and descriptive) they concluded “I am a failure.” Instead of saying “I flunked that subject” they said “I am a flunk-out.” For those who are interested in learning more of Lecky’s work, I recommend securing a copy of his book: Self Consistency, a Theory of Personality, The Island Press, New York.
Problem is identify as a failure not stating that you failed
the so-called “subconscious mind” is not a “mind” at all, but a mechanism—a goal-striving “servo-mechanism” consisting of the brain and nervous system, which is used by, and directed by mind.
The subconcious isnt a mind, but a goal setting machine
This Creative Mechanism within you is impersonal. It will work automatically and impersonally to achieve goals of success and happiness, or unhappiness and failure, depending upon the goals which you yourself set for it.
The goals that our own Creative Mechanism seeks to achieve are MENTAL IMAGES, or mental pictures, which we create by the use of IMAGINATION.
The goals we set to acheive are mental images. VISULISE
develop an adequate and realistic Self-Image, and (2) use your Creative Mechanism to bring success and happiness in achieving particular goals.
“steer” their way to a goal, target, or “answer.”
Your goal striving machine acts upon the goals you set, the mental images you imagine
visulise your goals, attach emtion and really create a mental image of who you are and want to become
Experience has shown that when a person does change his self-image, he has the feeling that for one reason or another, he “sees,” or realizes the truth about himself.
Think of the times youve dedicated yourself to exercise or studying for amazon fba
socially at uni or at tokyo or summer of love
If you were engineered for success and happiness, then the old picture of yourself as unworthy of happiness, of a person who was “meant” to fail, must be in error.
Every human is wired for success
Your built-in success mechanism must have a goal or “target.” This goal, or target, must be conceived of as “already in existence—now” either in actual or potential form. It operates by either (1) steering you to a goal already in existence or by (2) “discovering” something already in existence.
You must belive you can acheive this goal. It should be in ezxsistance already
The automatic mechanism is teleological, that is, operates, or must be oriented to “end results,” goals. Do not be discouraged because the “means whereby” may not be apparent. It is the function of the automatic mechanism to supply the “means whereby” when you supply the goal. Think in terms of the end result, and the means whereby will often take care of themselves.
Be clear with the end result.
Do not be afraid of making mistakes, or of temporary failures. All servo-mechanisms achieve a goal by negative feedback, or by going forward, making mistakes, and immediately correcting course.
You must learn to trust your creative mechanism to do its work and not “jam it” by becoming too concerned or too anxious as to whether it will work or not, or by attempting to force it by too much conscious effort. You must “let it” work, rather than “make it” work. This trust is necessary because your creative mechanism operates below the level of consciousness, and you cannot “know” what is going on beneath the surface. Moreover, its nature is to operate spontaneously according to present need. Therefore, you have no guarantees in advance. It comes into operation as you act and as you place
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Turn up and trust the process. Dont fprce it just always be there to let yourechanism work
A human being always acts and feels and performs in accordance with what he imagines to be true about himself and his environment.
Your nervous system cannot tell the difference between an imagined experience and a “real” experience. In either case, it reacts automatically to information which you give to it from your forebrain. Your nervous system reacts appropriately to what “you” think or imagine to be true.
Ypur thoughts are acted upon by your nervous system. It cant tell the difference between real or fake
You act, and feel, not according to what things are really like, but according to the image your mind holds of what they are like.
Your perception crrates your reality
It follows that if our ideas and mental images concerning ourselves are distorted or unrealistic, then our reaction to our environment will likewise be inappropriate.
If ypu believe ypurself to be an anxious person. Ypu will act anxious when in an emviroment that you cpnsider will make you anxious
we picture ourselves performing in a certain manner, it is nearly the same as the actual performance. Mental practice helps to make perfect.
“Well, it is simply imagining yourself in various sales situations, then solving them in your mind, until you know what to say and what to do whenever the situation comes up in real life.
Do this for social skills
The core of the Morrison system is “You must have a clear mental picture of the correct thing before you can do it successfully.”
Cybernetics regards the human brain, nervous system, and muscular system, as a highly complex “servo-mechanism.” (An automatic goal-seeking machine which “steers” its way to a target or goal by use of feedback data and stored information, automatically correcting course when necessary.)
Instead of trying hard by conscious effort to do the thing by iron-jawed will power, and all the while worrying and picturing to yourself all the things that are likely to go wrong, you simply relax the strain, stop trying to “do it” by strain and effort, picture to yourself the target you really want to hit, and “let” your creative success mechanism take over.
This same creative mechanism within you can help you achieve your best possible “self” if you will form a picture in your imagination of the self you wanted to be and “see yourself” in the new role. This is a necessary condition to personality transformation, regardless of the method of therapy used. Somehow, before a person can change, he must “see” himself in a new role.
“If . . . we have in our minds a picture of ourselves as fear-haunted and defeated nobodies, we must get rid of that picture at once and hold up our heads. That is a false picture and the false must go.
We must recognize the possibility of change and believe in the self we are now in the process of becoming. That old sense of unworthiness and failure must go. It is false and we are not to believe in what is false.”
Set aside a period of 30 minutes each day where you can be alone and undisturbed. Relax and make yourself as comfortable as possible. Now close your eyes and exercise your imagination.
With such self-definitions, the student had to make poor grades in order to be true to himself.
“You are very, very strong. Stronger than you have ever been in your life. Much, much stronger. You are surprised at how strong you are.” Again the gripping strength of his hand is tested. This time he easily pulls the needle to the 125 pound mark.
You can hypnotise yourself to become greater than you think you are. Reach your true potential
All this happens apparently merely because the hypnotist tells them that they can and instructs them to go ahead and do it.
Within you, whoever you may be, regardless of how big a failure you may think yourself to be, is the ability and the power to do whatever you need to do to be happy and successful. Within you right now is the power to do things you never dreamed possible. This power becomes available to you just as soon as you can change your beliefs. Just as quickly as you can dehypnotize yourself from the ideas of “I can’t,” “I’m not worthy,” “I don’t deserve it” and other self-limiting ideas.
You have the power to..
1. Earn no less than 10k a month
2. Be free of social anxitey
3. Be an amazing PT
4. Sleep with loads of women
Feelings of inferiority originate not so much from “facts” or experiences, but our conclusions regarding facts, and our evaluation of experiences. For example, the fact is that I am an inferior weight-lifter and an inferior dancer. This does not, however, make me an “inferior person.” Paul Anderson’s and Arthur Murray’s inability to perform surgery makes them “inferior surgeons,” but not “inferior persons.” It all depends upon “what” and “whose” norms we measure ourselves by.
Just because someone gets more insta likes dosent mean there a higher social standard. Dosent mean because someone has more muscle than you that there better at exercise or a better person
And this feeling of inferiority comes about for just one reason: We judge ourselves, and measure ourselves, not against our own “norm” or “par” but against some other individual’s “norm.” When we do this, we always, without exception, come out second best. But because we think, and believe and assume that we should measure up to some other person’s “norm,” we feel miserable, and second-rate, and conclude that there is something wrong with us. The next logical conclusion in this cockeyed reasoning process is to conclude that we are not “worthy”; that we do not deserve success and happiness, and
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We always measure our self as inferior to others because were comparing our abilites to there norm and not ours.
we feel like were not worthy and we dont have anything to offer. Therefore we dont try
The person with an inferiority complex invariably compounds the error by striving for superiority. His feelings spring from the false premise that he is inferior. From this false premise, a whole structure of “logical thought” and feeling is built. If he feels bad because he is inferior, the cure is to make himself as good as everybody else, and the way to feel really good is to make himself superior. This striving for superiority gets him into more trouble, causes more frustration, and sometimes brings about a neurosis where none existed before. He becomes more miserable than ever, and “the
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Because i feel inferior im trying to hard to feel supiror. Setting an expectation upon my self which is impossible to hit. Your level with everyone else. We all breathe and shit the same. Dont let your limiting beleifs about yourself take control. Your not in competion with anyone. If you are you will always feel inferior becuase your never fully know whats going on in someones mind
You are not “inferior.” You are not “superior.” You are simply “You.” “You” as a personality are not in competition with any other personality simply because there is not another person on the face of the earth like you, or in your particular class. You are an individual. You are unique. You are not “like” any other person and can never become “like” any other person. You are not “supposed” to be like any other person and no other person is “supposed” to be like you.
Stop measuring yourself against “their” standards. You are not “them” and can never measure up. Neither can “they” measure up to yours—nor should they. Once you see this simple, rather self-evident truth, accept it and believe it, your inferior feelings will vanish.
modern man’s anxiety and insecurity stemmed from a lack of “self-realization,” and that inner security can only be found “in finding in oneself an individuality, uniqueness and distinctiveness that is akin to the idea of being created in the image of God.” He also said that self-realization is gained by “a simple belief in one’s own uniqueness as a human being, a sense of deep and wide awareness of all people and all things and a feeling of constructive influencing of others through one’s own personality.”
“When they can relax, they can talk.” Dr. Matthew N. Chappell has pointed out that often the effort or “will power” used to fight against or resist worry, is the very thing that perpetuates worry and keeps it going. (Matthew N. Chappell, How to Control Worry, Permabooks, New York.)
These memories of past failures do no harm as long as our conscious thought and attention is focused upon the positive goal to be accomplished. Therefore, it is best to let these sleeping dogs lie.
its not beneficial to dwell on past mistakes
use them to learn then let them sleep
Continually criticising yourself for past mistakes and errors does not help matters, but on the other hand tends to perpetuate the very behavior you would change.
“purgation of memory” of past failures,
why couldn’t a person in the wakeful state use these same powers by ignoring past failures and “acting as if it were impossible to fail”? She determined to try it. She would act on the assumption that the powers and abilities were there—and that she could use them—if only she would go ahead and “ACT AS IF”—instead of in a tentative half-hearted way.
Failure isnt an option. I have all the powers in me
they are being held back by myself and my living in the past
“Would you physically get down on all fours and crawl into the man’s office, prostrating yourself before a superior personage?” “I should say not!” he bristled. “Then, why do you mentally cringe and crawl?”
Would you do anything physically to impress this person, would you tie there shoe?
then why mentally give them that sort of superiority. There just the same as you
