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October 8 - October 19, 2022
Fate is the hand of cards we’ve been dealt. Choice is how we play the hand.
We think we are in sync with our environment, but actually it’s at war with us.
Our environment is a nonstop triggering mechanism whose impact on our behavior is too significant to be ignored.
If we do not create and control our environment, our environment creates and controls us. And the result turns us into someone we do not recognize.
We are superior planners and inferior doers.
The boxer-philosopher Mike Tyson said, “Everyone has a plan until they get punched in the face.” As we wander through life, what punches us in the face repeatedly is our environment.
our smartest response to an environment is avoiding it.
Apologizing is a magic move.
Asking for help is a magic move.
Optimism—not only feeling it inside but showing it on the outside—is a magic move.
active self-questioning can trigger a new way of interacting with our world.
Self-discipline refers to achieving desirable behavior. Self-control refers to avoiding undesirable behavior.
Am I willing, at this time, to make the investment required to make a positive difference on this topic?
If there’s a person who drives you crazy, you don’t have to like, agree with, or respect him, just accept him for being who he is.
when we’re in contact with another human being, we face the option of being helpful, hurtful, or neutral.
Hourly Questions are for the short game—when we require a burst of discipline to restrain our behavioral impulses for a defined period of time.
when our lack of skill at any task dramatically reduces our motivation to do that task, defaulting to some form of good enough is a shrewd option.
“Never wrestle with a pig—because you both get dirty but the pig loves it”).
We love to scapegoat our environment.
When we prolong negative behavior—both the kind that hurts the people we love or the kind that hurts us in some way—we are leading a changeless life in the most hazardous manner.
