Feel The Fear And Do It Anyway: How to Turn Your Fear and Indecision into Confidence and Action

by Susan Jeffers

I HAVE TALKED about a lot of powerful tools: Affirmations, Saying Yes to Your Universe, Positive Thinking, Taking Responsibility, No-Lose Decisions, Choosing Love and Trust, Learning to Give and more. The reason these are powerful tools is that they open us to a place within, which, when tapped, allows us to feel “full-filled.”

One of the tools the Subconscious Mind uses to connect you with what you are looking for is your intuition.

“This job is not my life. If I do not get it, it is because it is not for my highest good. If I am meant to have it, it will be mine. I can relax now and turn it over to my Subconscious Mind and the universal energy out there. All the answers I need are within me. It is all happening perfectly. There is nothing to fear.”

One of the powerful tools used by the practitioners of psychosynthesis and other disciplines is the guided visualization. This can be one of the most effective ways of quickly touching the Higher Self. There are a number of wonderful books written on the subject, and again I suggest you read them. But really to know the power of the guided visualization, you must experience one. Therefore, I encourage you to take a guided visualization workshop or buy tapes that include one. Reading gives you an understanding, but going through one gives you the experience—a dramatic difference indeed.

THE CHOICE IS MINE WHEN I TUNE INTO WHEN I TUNE INTO MY CHATTERBOX MY HIGHER SELF I try to control I trust I don’t notice my blessings I appreciate I need I love I am insensitive I care I am in turmoil I am at peace I am blocked I am creative I don’t know I count I count I repel I attract I make a – difference I make a + difference I take I give and receive I am bored I am involved I am empty I am filled up I am filled with self-doubt I am confident I am dissatisfied I am content I have tunnel vision I see big I wait and wait I live now I am helpless I am helpful I never enjoy I am joyful I am always disappointed I go with what is I hold resentment I forgive I am tense I am relaxed I am a robot I am alive I am being passed by I love getting older I am weak I am powerful I am vulnerable I am protected I am off course I am on the path I try to control I let go I am poor I have so much I am lonely I am connected I am afraid I am excited

The biggest pitfall as you make your way through life is impatience. Remember that being impatient is simply a way of punishing yourself. It creates stress, dissatisfaction and fear.

Whenever your Chatterbox is making you feel impatient, ask it, “What’s the rush? It’s all happening perfectly. Don’t worry. When I am ready to move forward I will. In the meantime, I am taking it all in and I am learning.”

Patience means knowing it will happen … and giving it time to happen.

The journey upward is not always a steady climb. You may climb, then stop and rest, regroup. So, too, with the spiritual journey. Sometimes it may seem as though you have stopped growing. Not so. You are just consolidating your information.

One of my favorite passages reflecting the agony and ecstasy of our journey is from The Velveteen Rabbit by Margery Williams. In the story, two nursery toys, the Skin Horse and the Rabbit, talk about becoming Real: “Does it hurt?” asked the Rabbit. “Sometimes,” said the Skin Horse, for he was always truthful. “When you are Real, you don’t mind being hurt.” “Does it happen all at once, like being wound up,” he asked, “or bit by bit?” “It doesn’t happen all at once,” said the Skin Horse. “You become. It takes a long time. That’s why it doesn’t often happen to people who break easily, or have sharp edges, or who have to be carefully kept. Generally, by the time you are Real, most of your hair has been loved off, and your eyes drop out and you get loose in the joints and very shabby. But these things don’t matter at all, because once you are Real you can’t be ugly, except to people who don’t understand.”

To become involved is to reduce our fear. We become bigger, we move away from that “feverish, selfish little clod of ailments and grievances complaining that the world will not devote itself to making me happy.” We move into true adult status, where we have much to give this world.