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First, it requires a mature adult to give, and most of us have never really grown up. Second, giving is an acquired skill that few of us have mastered.
People who fear can’t genuinely give. They are imbued with a deep-seated sense of scarcity in the world, as if there wasn’t enough to go around.
Independent career women who demand so much from their men that they are often alone
As a result, unless we get something back, we feel used.
This is not to say that we can’t enjoy what comes back to us, and paradoxically:
WHEN WE GIVE FROM A PLACE OF LOVE, RATHER THAN FROM A PLACE OF EXPECTATION, MORE USUALLY COMES BACK TO US TH...
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If we are constantly expecting, we will spend a great deal of our lives disappointed that the wo...
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The more I had, the more I wanted—more love, more money, more praise—more, more, more.
got divorced I wasn’t there for him emotionally when he might have needed me. I was too wrapped up in my own pain to help him with his. His answer was, “It’s okay, Mom. That was the period of my life when I learned independence. That was a valuable lesson.
So, even if you perceive that someone has mistreated you, find the lesson you learned from them and put the contribution on your list.
Once you have listed all the gifts from various people in your life, systematically go about thanking them. If it is someone you haven’t
Visualize someone who brings up a lot of anger or pain in you. Picture them in front of you. First, surround them with rays
Thank them for whatever they have given you. Keep doing this until you feel your negative emotions leaving.
“Wish her good things? Are you out of your mind? I want to see her suffer for what she’s done to me!”
This turned to anger at myself for allowing what had happened and for holding all my anger for so long.
This process took about an hour. When I began, I thought nothing much would happen. Wrong! I screamed, I cried, I hurt, I hated, I opened up, I forgave, I loved, I felt peace. I continued to do this exercise daily until I no longer felt anything negative about him and could freely wish him all good things.
I did this exercise for all the people in my life for whom I was holding any negativity, no matter how great or how slight.
When I left lunch that day, I felt I had completed something that heretofore had been incomplete—and it felt wonderful.
In terms of your physical and mental health, it is just as good as if they were actually sitting before you.
When we hold negative feelings about people in our past, we carry those feelings to those in our present.
many people don’t say thank you because they don’t realize how important their thanks
Turn this around and begin giving others as much help as you can possibly give them. Professionally, this can be very difficult.
Thank goodness, I felt the fear … and did it anyway. Some of the people I helped have become my good friends and part of my support system.
Here, too, the giving has to be done with no expectations of return.
For some reason, when you become a support to others you become bigger than you are.
Moreover, when people use what they have learned from you, your effect in this world is greatly magnified.
Yet, in some strange way, when we praise the people in our lives, we release the negativity and open the door for their being loving toward us.
YOU MUST BECOME WHAT YOU WANT TO ATTRACT BE THE KIND OF PERSON YOU WOULD WANT TO SURROUND YOURSELF WITH.
We are entitled to have our needs met.
It is also one of our most precious gifts. How do you give away time? You listen to a friend’s problem, you write a note of thanks, you get involved in something bigger than yourself and become a participating member, you volunteer, you read a book to a child.
“If I really counted, what would I be doing in this situation? How would I be acting?” It really works.
“Security is not having money; it’s knowing you can do without it.”
“Love is generally confused with dependence; but in point of fact, you can love only in proportion to your capacity for independence.”
The Book of Abundance. Buy yourself a beautiful notebook, as expensive as you can afford. Start filling it by listing as many positive things in your life—past and present—as you can think of. Don’t stop until you reach 150. Some of you will find more. When you feel you can’t think of any more, you can.
There is no need to feel scarcity, when there is such abundance.
Lack is only in the mind. Some of the greatest givers I ever met were the poor I met at The Floating Hospital.
When you are a giver, you have nothing to fear. You are powerful and you are loving. The trick in life is not figuring out what you can get, but what you can give.
They tune out the minute it is mentioned. The reason is that they confuse “spiritual” with religion and God. For those who are not religious, the word “spiritual” is a turnoff.
When you operate from the Higher Self, you feel centered and abundant—in fact, overflowing.
As with the Higher Self, the Chatterbox has always been there, and will always be there. No use lamenting the fact that it pops up every once in a while! I guarantee that it will.
When you put out “I am a strong and worthy person,” the universe obliges the Subconscious Mind and delivers all sorts of positive things. People respect your strength and treat you fairly. You attain all sorts of wonderful things.
I simply say, “I ask my Subconscious Mind to find the solution for me.” I then stop worrying and thinking about it. Somehow, easily and effortlessly, the solution comes.
Positive self-talk works even if you don’t believe it initially.
When people speak of “being on the path” or of life as a “journey,” they are referring to the constant vigil required to train the Conscious Mind to listen to the lessons of the Higher Self, which, because of interference from the Chatterbox, elude us at times.
meditation or whatever works for you. The best time to do this is in the morning, because it sets up the entire day.
Therefore, I encourage you to take a guided visualization workshop or buy tapes that include one.
WHY CHOOSE TO BE RIGHT INSTEAD OF HAPPY WHEN THERE IS NO WAY TO BE RIGHT?
WHEN I TUNE INTO WHEN I TUNE INTO MY CHATTERBOX MY HIGHER SELF I try to control I trust I don’t notice my blessings I appreciate I need I love I am insensitive I care
