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you can accept fear as simply a fact of life rather than a barrier to success.
My experiment with taking the concept of fear out of the realm of therapy and placing it in the area of education was extremely successful.
From this moment on, every time you feel afraid, remind yourself that it is simply because you are not feeling good enough about yourself.
The rest—the part that holds us back from personal growth—is inappropriate and destructive, and perhaps can be blamed on our conditioning.
“I love you too much. I don’t want anything to happen to you.” I translated this to mean: “You are not competent enough to handle a two-wheel bike.”
Considering how many “be careful”s our parents bombarded us with, it is amazing we even manage to walk out the front door!
My fear had turned into sweet anticipation.
The “doing it” comes before the feeling better about yourself. When you make something happen, not only does the fear of the situation go away, but also you get a big bonus: you do a lot toward building your self-confidence. It’s fairly predictable, however, that when you’ve finally mastered something and gotten rid of the fear, it will feel so good you will decide there is something else out there you want to accomplish, and—guess what!
By virtue of our all being human, we share the same feelings. Fear is no exception.
step in retraining your thinking is to say the Fear Truths at least ten times a day for the next month.
people who refuse to take risks live with a feeling of dread that is far more severe than what they would feel if they took the risks necessary to make them less helpless—only they don’t know it!
Janice had never realized she was living with terror all her life until that terror disappeared.
By now you’ve gotten the picture. We can’t escape fear. We can only transform it into a companion that accompanies us in all our exciting adventures;
The fear will never go away as long as I continue to grow. 2. The only way to get rid of the fear of doing something is to go out … and do it. 3. The only way to feel better about myself is to go out … and do it. 4. Not only am I going to experience fear whenever I’m on unfamiliar territory, but so is everyone else. 5. Pushing through fear is less frightening than living with the underlying fear that comes from a feeling of helplessness.
Women have been conditioned to believe that to be powerful is unfeminine and unattractive.
A self-assured woman who is in control of her life draws like a magnet. She is so filled with positive energy that people want to be around her. Yet it is only when she has become powerful within herself that she can become authentic and loving to those around her. The truth is that love and power go together.
Remember that each time you get angry at yourself for an action you have taken, you keep yourself on the side of pain.
“I can come to dinner, but I am choosing to do something that has a higher priority at the moment.”
It’s better to take responsibility for whatever happens to you in life than always to be the victim.
“I’ve learned Tom is sensitive about this issue. Next time, I’ll be more sensitive.”
suggest that each day you do something that widens that space for you. Call someone you are intimidated to call, buy a pair of shoes that costs more than you would ever pay in the past,
Take a risk a day—one small or bold stroke that will make you feel great once you’ve done it.
Each night before you go to bed, plan the risk you are going to take the following day.
These kinds of acts are not empowering, because they do not have any integrity or love—for one’s self or others—behind them.
Without these ingredients, it is impossible to build your sense of self-worth.
Most of us are filled with old conditioning that is keeping us weak.
It takes constant repetition for newer and healthier patterns to take hold.
For some reason, you are consciously or unconsciously choosing to be in that lousy job, you are choosing to hate the single life, you are choosing to stay in a destructive relationship, you are choosing to let your daughter drive you crazy, you are choosing to sabotage anything good in your life … or whatever else it may be for you.
I know it is difficult to accept the fact that you are the cause of the feelings that take away your joy in life.
“Well, it certainly was my son’s fault that I have gray hair, from worrying about him.” Why didn’t you believe that he would find his own way? Why did you always need to rescue him? Why did you make him so much an extension of yourself that you expected too much from him? Why couldn’t you just let him be who he
Don’t make yourself a victim of yourself!
There is absolutely no need to be upset with your past, present or future behavior. It is all simply part of the learning process—the process of moving yourself from pain to power. And it takes time. You must be patient with yourself.
I remember many evenings of complaining for countless hours with my girlfriends about the grief the men in my life were causing me.
envy judgmentalness
You never get rewarded for all the hard work. It just pays to be a big manipulator, like all the rest.
An honest hard worker is just not appreciated any more.
then we gripe about it. Many of us spend our lives waiting—waiting for the perfect mate, waiting for the perfect job, waiting for perfect friends to come along.
Given commitment, clear goals and action, it’s just a matter of time.
This one is really tough! See if you can go one week without criticizing anyone or complaining about anything. You will be surprised how difficult this is. You will also be surprised to learn how much complaining and criticizing you do.
By the way, when you ultimately stop putting down other people in your life, it may seem as if you have nothing left to talk about with your friends. Griping is a habit and needs to be replaced by something more positive. This takes a bit of time and ingenuity, but it will be far more satisfying and joyful. Seven Ways to Reclaim Your Power 1.
Positive thinking is one of the most difficult of all concepts to get across to people.
There is an automatic assumption that negative is realistic and positive is unrealistic.
It is reported that over 90% of what we worry about never happens.
Nothing is realistic or unrealistic—there is only what we think about any given situation. We create our own reality.
“Ships in harbor are safe, but that’s not what ships are built for.”
I am now handling all my fears. There is nothing to fear. I am creating everything I want, easily and effortlessly. My world is filled with abundance. I am now creating a healthy radiant body. I am filling my life with peace and joy. I allow my mind to relax and let go.
What is happening is that others have become accustomed to interacting with you in a certain way, and when that pattern of interaction is broken, there is usually upset of varying degrees.
do you feel “contaminated” by their negativity?
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